(Closed) The Buzz: What length of time did you date before getting engaged, and…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

We started dating in May 2011 and became engaged April 2013. We’re known each other for 15 years and were best friends for 5 years before dating. It’s been perfect for us because we’re taken our time to grow separately as people before we became a couple. 

Post # 33
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We had been dating for just under 6 months when we got engaged, and married after bein together for 10 months. It just felt right from the start! Neither of us felt pressure to get married, we just couldn’t wait 🙂

Post # 34
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We dated for 4 years before getting engaged.  We always knew we were going to be together, and I never wanted children, so we weren’t on any sort of timeline.  After we had figured out where we wanted to settle, purchsed a home, and put away some savings, we were finally able to afford the wedding we wanted without going into debt, so that’s when we did it.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

We dated for five years before we got engaged. We met my freshman year of college when I was just 19, and it took that long for us to graduate and get grown up jobs. It was really important to my husband that we be financially stable before getting engaged. We got married a year later. 

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We only dated for three months. In my religion/culture it’s a pretty standard time period. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

We “officially” dated for about a year and a half before becoming engaged. We were long distance for our entire friendship/dating relationship (minus short visits and one 4-month stay) , so we needed to take the next step by that point.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee

4.5 years. We got engaged immediately after DH got out of college (he was on the 10 year plan to get is BA) and found a job. It worked out perfectly because we are both employed.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Mrs. Penguin:  

We were together for 20 months before we got engaged. The two of us had been through so much together by that point and we knew our relationship was meant for the long haul.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We dated a about 3 years and 3 months before we got engaged.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Muhlhauser Barn

We dated for a year and four months before getting engaged. We had moved in together six months prior to getting engaged & we’re having a twenty month engagement — getting married right before our third anniversary. The timing was perfect for us because we both knew pretty early on that we were headed in the marriage direction, but didn’t really feel rushed to get married soon after we got engaged. Now that we’ve been engaged for 10 months & still have 10 months to go until the wedding though, I wish we were getting married a bit sooner!

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We dated 7 years, 3 months and 2 days before getting engaged (haha). It was the perfect time because Fiance finally decided he was ready. I was totally ready sooner. But now that we actually have to plan a wedding, I think it might have been harder earlier on. We’re only 25, so haven’t had that much time to build up finances.

Post # 44
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We dated 7 months.

Post # 45
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Bee Keeper

Five years. It took us until over 4 years together to move from being about 98% sure we were the best fit for each other, to 100% sure. Then it took us another 9 months or so to figure out all the details about getting engaged Embarassed, from just the right ring for us, to him asking my dad and his mom for their blessing, to the proposal! We didn’t hurry, because we see value in letting things unfold at their natural pace.

As an aside, I had previously dated two other men for 4 years each, and I’m very glad not to have felt urgency to marry, as it may have caused me to settle down with one of them prematurely, which would have been a major mistake. If there’s one thing I wish I could impart to other women on this site it would be the confidence in knowing that there is no need to rush things – and many reasons why not to.

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

We dated for 3.5 years when he proposed!  I was starting to be ready at 2.5 years, actually ready at 3, but he didn’t want to steal my friend’s thunder and propose on a trip to her wedding in Australia, so he waited until our next big trip to make sure it was special and awesome.  It worked out perfectly, because right before that trip, we started looking at houses for him to buy, so when he proposed he said that now we could look at houses for us to buy!  Plus at that point I felt like I knew him well enough, trusted him completely, and couldn’t imagine being with anyone else, so I’m kind of glad for enough time to have passed so I could be as certain as I was.  I felt like I was sure earlier, but a little extra time didn’t hurt!

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