(Closed) The Buzz: What length of time did you date before getting engaged, and…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We dated almost exactly 3 years before we got engaged.

 

We moved in together after 2 years and 2 months of dating, and he proposed 3 days after our 3 year anniversary! We are getting married about 4 months before our 5 year anniversary.

 

Post # 48
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

WE dated 4 yrs and 10 months, and to be honest he had asked 4 times prior to my saying yes. I had been married before at 19 and had a long and tiresome divorce. Plus he is 20 yrs my senior and I kept thinking it would one day bother me that we had such an age gap but I had a scare with him getting hurt and realized that I don’t care about the what ifs and should stay with the now. So he asked me again and I said I’d think about it. He took that as a sign and got a ring and asked the last time… It was perfect because we were settled into a life as if we were married with him having spent the whole summer with my daughter while he recouped and developing a relationship with her as well. 

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Soon to be engaged bee here–waiting for my ring to be sized. We have been dating almost 6 years. We have known that we were going to spend forever together for many many years now, it is time for us.

Post # 50
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

10 months. I think that was perfect! We had already been friends for 12 years by then too. We discussed marriage and family for about half of our dating time then he had to find the perfect ring (it took him almost 2 months).

Post # 51
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We got engaged 10 months after we met and started dating.  I had moved him with him after about 3.5 months (never lived with an SO before him).  Everything just went so well we both just knew that this was it.  We met at 27/28 so we had no reason to wait.  We’re getting married on our 2nd anniversary because I wanted that date (it’s a Saturday this year).

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We dated for 3.5 years, having moved in and lived together for about 1.5 of those. 

It was totally perfect! I probably would have said yes a bit sooner than he proposed, but when we first got together, it was after a broken engagement and during a study abroad and basically the elements suggested we were probably just a fling anyway… and once we realized this was serious, I wanted to just enjoy that. I wasn’t going to be ready for awhile. 

Besides that we met during school, and he really wanted to do things “right” as he sees it, so we weren’t gonna get engaged until he could afford my dream ring and we could afford a wedding (knowing our families wouldn’t help.) It was a conversation we had maybe six months into living together. (Though he’d been making “wanna marry you” offhand comments nearly from the start.)

After we moved to Korea, our financial situation improved and I felt “ready,” as did he if the frequency of “when we get married oh btw what is your ring size” was any consolation. He had a custom ring made for me and flown all the way from home to Korea, proposed during our summer vacation trip to Japan last year, and we’re flying back to the US to get married in a few weeks! (It’s a destination wedding but only for us hahaha.)

Post # 53
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

18 months before our engagement!  But we knew right away we were the right ones for each other.

Post # 54
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569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We dated for nearly 9 years before we got engaged, and had a 3.5 year engagement. It seems like the girl is always the one who is waiting, but in my case, it was DH who waited (very patiently). I was adamant that I should at least see the light at the end of the tunnel that was grad school before we even started planning the wedding. We never felt any need to rush into marriage, though for the last 6 years, we’ve lived 3 hours apart on either side of the border. We tried to see each other on most weekends, but now after 12.5 years, it is the most wondrous feeling to finally be able to live in the same country, and to come home to the most wonderful person every day and to call him my husband.

 

 

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

He proposed in June 2011, after we’d been dating about 5 years and 9 months. It was perfect for us because by that time we both had real grown up jobs, both had finished our Masters degrees, and were in the process of buying a house together. We knew we were in it for the long haul around the 2.5 year mark, but we wanted our lives to unfold and wanted some stability before we became engaged.

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I moved in after 3 months, then we got engaged after 2 and half years. We will be married after 3.5 years but were in our mid-30’s.

Post # 57
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729 posts
Busy bee

We talked about it after 4 or 5 years but I said I wasn’t ready. We didn’t actually get engaged until almost 9 years together. That was right for us because we were like 19/20 when we started seeing each other so the “normal” timeline would have been way too fast for us. 

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We dated for almost 7 years before we got engaged…but almost 5 of those years were long-distance during the school year for college and grad school. We moved halfway across the country and moved in together in August 2009, and got engaged in April 2011. I was lovingly dubbed the ‘common law wife – CLW’ by my husband’s coworkers.

Post # 59
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We connected via eHarmony and communicated through that site and, eventually, texts, and phone calls, for two months prior to meeting in person. We became engaged five months after our first date (seven months after being introduced online.) 

Post # 60
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

We dated for about 4.5 years before getting engaged.  A little more than 3 of those years were semi-long distance, and moving in together was the catalyst.  I guess it was the perfect time because it took us 4 years to figure out a situation in which we could live together, and once we lived together we knew we wanted to be together forever.  Personally speaking I knew early on that I wanted to get married to him, but our life situations just weren’t right for engagement yet.

Post # 61
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Buzzing Beekeeper

We dated for 3 months before getting engaged. While it certainly raised a few eyebrows, it worked for us then and is continuing to work for us now. Prior to being with my Fiance, I was in a nearly 10 year relationship. That experience gave me a strong sense of what I want and don’t want in a partner, as well as a strong sense of self. When Fiance and I found each other, it was the perfect timing because we were both in a place where we were ready to commit again and build a life with the right person.

He is not just my best friend, he is my life partner in every sense of the word. We couldn’t be happier and our bond grows stronger everyday. My advice? You can’t live life based on a calendar, and you can’t measure your own relationship or success with someone else’s yardstick. Different things work for different people and I am so happy that I ignored all the naysayers and followed my heart – it led me to marrying the man who I have been waiting a very long time for.

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