(Closed) The Buzz: What length of time did you date before getting engaged, and…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 92
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We dated for one year and 4 months before getting engaged and were engaged for 21 days before we got married! We knew so much sooner that we wanted to get married but we both decided it would be better to wait until a bit later. Theres no way to really describe how we knew, we just did. 

Post # 93
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756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We got engaged on our fourth anniversary. It was perfect because we knew we wanted to plan a wedding for this summer!

Post # 94
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We were together for 5 months when I moved in and were engaged right before the 7 month mark. We both had been through a lot with relationships and we’re a little older (I’m 28, he’s 33) and both of us felt we had found EXACTLY what we were looking for. He is absolutely the most amazing person I’ve ever met and I probably would’ve married him 2 months in if he had asked! πŸ™‚

Post # 95
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We were together for almost 5 years before we got engaged, living together for 2 of those. I personally would of liked to have been engaged a little sooner than that. But he insisted on waiting until he was ready, which was important. Just because I was ready for it, didn’t mean he was. But he proposed when he was ready & it was wonderful. Those 5 years gave us plenty of time to get to know each other & each other’s families, living together was definitely an eye opener, but I wouldn’t of changed it for anything!

Post # 96
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We were together for less than a year before being engaged and will marry about a year and a half into our relationship. 

If we had it our way, we would have been engaged in the first week. He is 28 and I am 27. 

Post # 97
Hostess
10096 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

7 years 5 months and 3 days after we started dating!!!!!!!!!! SUCH A LONG TIME TO WAIT.

We started dating my senior year of highschool, he’s a year older than me. Right after we started dating I went away to college πŸ™ 3.5 hours away πŸ™ πŸ™ πŸ™ So we made our long distance relationship work as I got my bachelors. Then I moved again for my master’s… this time 2.5 hours away. We made it work… and then I signed on for my PhD. This time I chose a school that was in a commutable distance to his work (still 70 miles away). We bought a house straight away because we could not wait another minute to live together.

Then 1 week before the 1 year anniversary of closing on our house he proposed!!!  I could not be happier! 

I wanted to be engaged so long ago, but I realize now that the best thing he could do was wait until we had a home and lived together. Sometimes not being engaged was super rough for me, as I saw everyone around me in shorter relationships getting engaged, married, having kids. But this is what worked for our lives and I can’t really imagine being engaged or married and living apart!

Post # 98
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We got engaged on our sixth anniversary. We were in college for the first three years of our relationship, and we ended up with jobs in different parts of the country after we graduated. The three years we have spent long-distance really helped us to grow, both individually and as a couple as we each learned to navigate our way through adulthood and our careers. I believe that if we had gotten married earlier, we probably still would have been happy, but I just don’t think we were quite “ready” yet. I truly began to feel fully ready a couple of months before we were engaged. It was the right time for us.

Post # 99
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Genoa Lakes Golf Club

We dated for three years and 2 months before getting engaged. It was the perfect amount of time for us as we want to model ourselves after each of our parents.  My fiances parents will be married for 41 years two days after we get married, and my parents have been married 30 1/2 years.  We both said we only wanted to get married once, and we wanted to make sure we were perfect for each other. It just felt right, he started saving, and we talked about getting married.

Post # 100
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We dated for about 1 year and 10 months before DH proposed.  We had both graduated college and were working full-time.  We both felt ready for marriage and knew that we wanted that to be with each other.

We were actually about 3 months in to a 10 month period of being long distance when we got engaged and I think it helped make the long distance more bearable to know that we were both in it for the long haul (and having wedding planning as a distraction doesn’t hurt either!).

Post # 101
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138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We got engaged about 2 and a half weeks shy of our two year anniversary (it happened this past saturday!!! woohoo!!!).  Even though it felt like forever, it was the perfect amount of time.  It gave us ample time to get to know each other well (the good and the bad).  He is the absolute greatest and I could gush about him all day…. Almost 2 years was perfect for us!

Post # 102
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We dated for almost 4 years (just shy of a month) before we got engaged.  We went through a lot together over the past 4 years and have grown up so much. That was very important to me. He was ready to get married the second he met me haha.  I am such a different person now at almost 25 then I was at 20. I needed to figure my life out before I could commit to something so important.

Post # 104
Hostess
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

DH and I only dated for 3 months before we got engaged, but waited about 28 months before getting married. It was originally going to be almost 3 years, but we wound up eloping. 

I wouldn’t say that our 3 month dating to engagement period was ideal, but it was what we needed to do at the time. It wound up working out perfectly. 

I truly believe that everything is different for each couple and through the trials and tribulations that you experience during your relationship, that will help shape your maturity as a couple.  

Post # 105
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8146 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We dated 2 years and 5 months and 14 days. I know because that was the day it became my longest relationship.  πŸ™‚ Coincidence! That was perfect for us because we wanted to be together at least 2 years just to get to know each other, and then he just waited 5 more months! Hehe

Post # 106
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Fiance and I dated for exactly two years before we got engaged. No joke – I asked him to be my boyfriend in the middle of Times Square on July 14th, 2011, and he asked me to marry him on July 14th, 2013. I think it was the perfect amount of time for the following reasons:

1. We are both in our 30s (I was in late 20s when we started dating) so we know what we are looking for in the right partner and won’t be wasting time on the wrong partner.

2. We were able to live together for roughly a year (I moved in with him after a year of dating) to see if we could share a tight space without WW3 breaking out.

3. We are going to be making a big move in the next year, and since we are planning on getting married in November of this year, we feel that with this status secured, we can trust each other to carry out this move successfully.

4. I knew he was the one b/c he could put up with my quirks, and I could put up with his. πŸ™‚

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