(Closed) The Buzz: What length of time did you date before getting engaged, and…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 107
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

DH and I dated for one year and 5 months before he proposed. It felt like the right time because we were both very happy and sure of our relationship, were financially sound, and we both felt “ready.” I will admit I wasn’t ready to walk down the aisle the moment I got the ring on my finger, but that’s what I felt an engagement was for: preparing yourself (in various ways) to be married, become a spouse, etc.

Post # 108
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

20 years we have been together and rasing our 2 kids,19 and 15 years old.

we decided to get engaged in january 2013 and marry in june 2013.we never planned to marry but we went through a split up the year before so we wanted to begin a new relationship together after working through everything we been through over the years.and we have been through just about everything long time couples who have been married for years have been through. 

we now know how to work out and work together to keep our marriage strong and not to let resentments creep in(which i feel causes most divorces).so we are confident we will be together until death do we part.

many here are looking forward to start a family(children)or are young parents.but my husband and i been there and are now helping our children get through high school and college so they will be successful adults.then

we are looking forward to our children’s weddings and grandchildren and to take trips to places we always wanted to go,and hopefully have a early retirement πŸ™‚ 

Post # 109
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We dated for 2 years and 5 months.  Although we had planned on getting engaged sooner, things didn’t work out with him getting a job right out of school.  We have been doing the long distance relationship for 4 months after seeing each other almost every day for a year and a half.  We did distance the first 5 months of our relationship as well.  After all the ups and downs and living 250 miles apart, we are more than ready to be Mr. and Mrs..come on June 7!!

Post # 110
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We dated for a year and 2 months (14 months) before he proposed and we’re having a 2 year and 3 month (27 month) long engagement. So, by the time we get married, we will have been together for 3 years and 5 months.

This works well for us because we met in my freshman year of college (18, 1 month shy of 19, he was 27) and got engaged at age 20. I am now 21 and starting my senior year of college. Among many reasons, I wanted to be a college graduate before I got married, so it works out well. I’ll be 22 and I’m graduating 1 month before our wedding! He will be 30.

Post # 111
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

DH and I dates for 5 years before he proPosed. We were 17 when we started dating so we waited until we were older to get engaged/married. It was the perfect time because I was on my last ssemester of college and he was getting ready to move in 8 months. We got a engaged and married at 22

Post # 112
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Helper bee

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@rcac1208:  If it works, it works, right? πŸ™‚ Congrats and many happy years!

 

Post # 113
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

We dated for 7 years before I was (finally) ready for him to propose.  We were college sweethearts (technically it was 8 years but we broke up after the first 3 months, long story), and then I left for grad school, and we did long distance for 5 years.  A week after I graduated with my doctorate degree, he proposed! It was the right time for us because we needed to, well, live in the same state, for starters! πŸ˜‰

Post # 114
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Helper bee

Okay Bees, I like organized data. Here’s my chart as of noon, Friday 7/26. I’ll update once closed!

 

Post # 115
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Yay, my first post of any kind on the hive!!

My fiance and I dated for SEVEN YEARS and FOUR MONTHS before we got engaged!! We will have been together almost ten years by the time we are married in 2015. Earlier in our dating, probably around the 4 year mark, I was more impatient to be engaged. Now, I wouldn’t change it for the world. I feel like I have the ring I wanted exactly, we were engaged on Ben Franklin’s birthday (I’m kind of obsessed with him), and it was in the living room of our first apartment. We are currently saving for our wedding and just like the whole time we dated, by waiting patiently, we are able to do things on our own terms.

Post # 116
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Dated for 5 years. It had felt right to get married for a while before we got engaged. Going to NYC Fiance thought it was a great opportunity to propose.

Post # 117
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

5 and a half years before we got engaged. Then another two years before the actual marriage part hehe

We are HS sweethearts though and wanted to graduate, move Iin together before we got married πŸ™‚

Post # 118
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We were together just under 6.5 years before he popped the question, and together nearly 8 by the time we get married (dating anniversary is Halloween Tongue Out).  It seemed like the perfect amount of time because it gave us time to grow up – we were 19 and working minimum wage jobs when we met, now we’re financially independent and can pay for the wedding we want ourselves, which is what we want.

Post # 119
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We started dating in June of 2008 and were engaged in December of 2011, so 3 years and 5 months.  My fiance and I knew each other in high school, so we have actually known each other for 10 years before we got engaged πŸ™‚

Due to my parents not knowing each other long and having a terrible marriage, back in HS I vowed to know the man I marry for a decade and date him for at least 5 years before marriage.  So this worked out perfectly for me as we’re having a 22 month engagement, so by Sept 21st we’ll have met my criteria for marrying!! 

Post # 120
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

DH and I dated for four and a half years before he proposed. We were engaged for a year and a half, and we got married on our 6 year anniversary. We were highschool sweethearts and honestly if we were in better places financially we would have done it sooner! But with school and loans we wanted to get to a point where we had a handle on our finances and I was close to being done with school first! It all seemed to really fall into place. I always knew we would get married on our anniversary, but I really wanted it to be on a Saturday! If he had proposed earlier we would have had to have had a wayyyy longer engagement just to get married on the right day. I know that’s kind of a silly reason but when he proposed and we looked at the calendar and saw that our anniversary would be on a Saturday, I just felt like it was the right time for us to do it! πŸ™‚

 

Anyway, I know it was the right time for us because we knew each other better than anyone else did. Our communication was at a great place, and we were at a place where we just worked well together! πŸ™‚ 

 

Post # 121
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Fiance were friends before he asked me out after I started to like him, and obviously he felt the same. LOL.

We dated for 23 before he proposed – the original plan was to do it on our 2-year anniversary but decided ‘why wait?’ and when we get married, we will have been together for just over 3-and-a-half-years.

 

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