Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
This question is part of our blog and boards series, The Buzz, where we poll the hive for great advice and ideas and run a selection of helpful answers on the blog. Read more about the series here, and a couple of our first The Buzz posts: Saving for your first home and Length of dating before getting engaged.
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What went wrong on your wedding day and how did you handle it?
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Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
Nothing. We went in with the intention of getting married and came out married. Our friends and family were there, no fights broke out, no one freaked out when we came out as not Christian, no one fainted at our readings about marriage equality. The organist was amazing, the ceremony was beautiful. We also got to have our friends over to our house for a brunch before and a s’mores roast after, so we got to hang out with everyone at calmer moments. It was a really lovely day.
Post # 4
You know, on our wedding day, I actually didn’t even notice the little things that went wrong – Darling Husband and his parents had some struggles with transportation of our guests – evidently the shuttle driver escorting our guests from the hotel to our venue underestimated how long it would take to get there and back, so our last batch of guests were almost late! 🙁 Some of them even drove themselves. But I didn’t hear about any of this until after the wedding, so i’m grateful for that. 🙂 Everyone came, nobody was left behind, crisis averted.
Post # 5
I got stuck walking down the aisle because my veil got caught. Twice. And then I laughed a little, because it was pretty funny.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
What went wrong (or what didn’t go as planned):
It rained all morning so my husband had limited time to set up the outdoor ceremony and reception sites; he was stressed to say the least.
My sister was poking around before doing my hair so the photographer showed up to take shots of me getting ready and I wasn’t ready other than my makeup.
My dad stepped on my dress after walking me down the aisle; we needed the laugh though because I cried walking down the aisle.
We ended up an hour ahead of schedule after taking pictures so we showed up early at the cocktail hour.
The mic didn’t work during our introductions so guests were a little choatic during our first dance.
My dad had a headache so we had to postpone the father-daught-mother-son dance for 10 minutes.
We ran out of clear mixers at the reception (ginger ale, sprite, etc…) so my dad volunteered to go to the store to pick up some more.
At the end of the day, everyone had a great time and none of the little hiccups mattered in the least.
Post # 7
My dress snagged on something as I was walking down the aisle and I had a long thread trailing behind me when I got to the altar. My guests freaked out more than I did, but I made a joke about getting a free extra long train and we all laughed. Other than that, I forgot to put on underwear that morning and left my necklace at home (my wonderful groom went back and got both for me lol). However, the most important part of the day to me (the cocktail hour & reception) was flawless.
Post # 8
the only thing I would say went “Wrong” was that at the end of the ceremony, when we were going in to sign the marriage license, the officiant called Darling Husband by the wrong name 🙂
Post # 9
@Mrs. Mouse: The DJ was 1 hour and 20min late becuase of traffic. I can say though, that it wasn’t that worst thing, because 50% of my guests were late as well, so the late DJ meant that al my guests could make it to the ceremony (they were late because of bad traffic….) …..silverlining.
The other thing that went WAY wrong is, again the DJ, played the wrong song on our entrance to the reception. He played a slow jam song instead of the upbeat one I asked….so my Darling Husband went with the flow and started our FIRST DANCE to the entrance song….so needless to say I cancelled my first dance for later
Post # 10
Our wedding was just last weekend. Where do I start on things thay went wrong…
Bridesmaid backed out
Groomsman backed out to instead attend my husbands ex girlfriends wedding
Original Photographer overlapped mine and another wedding leaving me to find another 3 months before wedding
Reception venue double booked and I wasnt prepared to pay extra so needed to book a new venue. Which changed my whole wedding from elegant, crisp and blingy to rustic barn wedding.
Original hair and makeup artist rang and cancelled because another party wanted my date and they had more people “hope its ok”
Closer to the wedding –
Hairdresser lost my card and guessed what colour I gotit dyed at my trial. My hair was bright orange two days before the wedding
Spray tanner missed patches on both me and remaining bridesmaid
On the day –
Celebrant didnt read what I gave her (and spent forever doing)instead improvised.
Husbands ring didnt fit
Flower girl bawled the whole time. Howling screaming kicking bawlI
Post # 11
As previously mentioned, our wedding day was great and we came out married. Some things didn’t go as I wanted though and if my advice can help anyone then that is great 🙂
– Have someone aside from a planner/co-ordinator know the day’s schedule. Our events co-ordinator met with us a few times before the wedding. 6 days before the wedding we devised a timeline and everytime I asked “how do we know when to start this?” “who is going to start the music for this?” she responded “me! don’t worry about it!”. Well dinner started and she was no-where to be found. We didn’t know the time, nobody indicated to start speeches, we had to ask a waiter to set up the mic. When that was finished we were to cut our cake but my Maid/Matron of Honor and SIL were trying to get the sound system to play our song. There was a really awkward lull. It wasn’t that big of a deal but if my bridesmaids knew then they said they would have been ready and it wouldn’t have been awkward. It was handled by me running around the reception room trying to find help, my bridesmaids doing the same and the guests just staring…awkward lol!
– Get a list of who you want pictures with. I see some lists on here of what people want pictures of and laugh, I think it’s silly to care about so many little details in the grand scheme of things. Create a list of the most important people to get pictures with. It ended up raining on our wedding day so nobody came to the location to get pictures with us so we missed a lot of them. If we had remembered who we wanted shots with then we could have remembered to get them earlier!
– If you are going to be doing a lot of walking when getting group pictures, take an extra set of shoes! We were doing pics for 1.5 hrs, I’m so glad I wasn’t wearing my heels then.
I think those were the major things. Everything else went perfectly 🙂
Post # 12
A few little things went wrong on our wedding day….the makeup artist showed up really late, the photographers missed several really key shots (especially family portraits), it was freezing and rainy (when the entire rest of the month has been glorious and warm)….all of these fall into the “oh well” category for me. Our goal was to be married at the end of the day, and enjoy the ride, and we did!
One funny little hiccup…..as the guests were being seated, I was in the bridal suite with my dad. I went into the bathroom to freshen up, and finally looked at myself in the mirror for the first time since leaving the hair salon several hours earlier….and promptly yelled “Motherf***er!”. Of course, my Dad hears and starts to panic, “What? What?” and I throw the door open and show him that one false lash is completely flapping in the wind, half detached. By this time the site coordinator is aware of the commotion and comes to help but sadly has no glue. So she offered to hold off the ceremony while someone went to the local drugstore. I asked, “Is the groom already at the end of the aisle, waiting?” and she told me yes. I couldn’t keep him waiting there, so I tried to press it down (unsuccessfully) and just said, “Let’s do this thing!” No one knew, no one noticed, you can’t tell in the pictures and now it’s just a funny story to laugh at when I remember my wedding day.
p.s. the coordinator got glue and we fixed it after the ceremony, no harm done!
Post # 13
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Photographer was ridiculously late and didnt listen to me. She didnt get any of the photos of special things to me like the present husband got for me for our wedding day (blue earrings) or my grandmothers necklace pinned in my bouquet. And continued to be rude to us and our bridal party all day.
Reception handed out the wrong dessert
Cake lady made the wrong cake
Husbands shirt tore and he had to buy a new one a few hours before wedding
And the kickers…
Husbands parents didnt show up to our reception. And didnt speak a word to us at all at ceremony. Nothing since and weare nowin thailand for honeymoon and uncontactable (they dont have fb though I guess they could email)
Husband half sister made rude comments about me being pregnant (im not) then left straight after food. Didnt see cake or dance or speeches
Husbands little sister who originally rsvpd no came, sulked the whole time. Left asap (she came with uncle because she wanted to drink and she was begging him to go) also didnt say a word to me all night. Tgen sent husband a nice text the day after along the lines of “congratulations on being married though it was very rude of you to make me feel so uncomfortable. You didnt even sit with us at ceremony”
Regardlessim happy. I still got to marry my love and for the next 8 days im far away from my realityI
Post # 14
It poured and everything was already set up outside so the poor groomsmen had to rush and bring everything quickly inside and move around EVERYTHING to make room for it all.
We were both late to our wedding due to weather.
Since we were late we were rushed for photographs and got hardly any “get ready” shots.
My cousin forgot to do my mom’s hair and my mom freaked out on her and it stressed me out.
The DJ didn’t have my first dance song (trust me I threw a fit and made him get it!) How do you not have a song when I gave you the list 5 months in advance?!
I’m sure there’s more. A lot seemed to have gone wrong lol.
Honestly I was stressed my whole wedding day and didn’t really handle it well. Others thought I did but I definitely had to cry it out by myself for a couple of minutes.
Post # 15
lots of little things did not go as planned, but the entire day was still perfect!
– Our venue failed to let us know ahead of time that the arch displayed at the end of the aisle had to be rented, and that someone on the other side of the property had already rented it! They didn’t tell us until about an hour before the ceremony, but we found an alternative that still worked with our floral arrangement.
– The shuttle we paid to transport guests to and from the venue was late. It pushed back the ceremony, and everything else, but only by 20 minutes or so. Luckily, no one told me until the next day, and I didn’t realize it because I didn’t have a watch or phone with me.
– I forgot to throw the toss bouquet (I didn’t want to to begin with, but it was weirdly important to my husband. Oops!) and no one took over after we cut the cake, so we just stood around looking at each other awkwardly for a minute haha.
– At the rehearsal dinner, I completely stuffed my face. Bad idea! I was visibily soo bloated the next day and have a “food baby” in some of our wedding photos 🙁
– This is the worst one, by far, and it’s partially our fault (and partially the photographers’ fault, in our opinion). Our photos fell far below our expectations, and were not of the same quality as our engagement photos. We should have been extremely specific about what we wanted in terms of style, editing and actual shots. I also firmly believe that our photographer team was off their game on our wedding day. In addition, I really, really wish we had done a first look. We were both 100% against it, but now I realize it wouldn’t have made a difference to anything except for giving us a lot more time and flexibility with the shots.
Post # 16
I don’t really think anything went wrong. But the funniest “wrong” thing that happened was Darling Husband couldn’t find his shoes. He almost had to walk down the aisle barefoot. Luckily his best man came to the rescue and had a brother that lived about 15 minutes away who was the same size shoe as Darling Husband.
The shoes finally showed up a week later when his mom was cleaning and found them stuffed in the coat closet. We think the cleaning lady probably put them there since she was cleaning the day we arrived at the house with all our stuff.
Here he is looking calm and collected: