(Closed) The Buzz: When will you have kids and how many will you have?

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
  • poll: How many kids do you and your SO want?
    None : (30 votes)
    10 %
    One : (31 votes)
    11 %
    Two : (112 votes)
    38 %
    Three : (60 votes)
    21 %
    Four or more : (16 votes)
    5 %
    We haven't decided yet. : (21 votes)
    7 %
    We want children but we aren't sure/don't care how many. : (18 votes)
    6 %
    Other (please explain) : (3 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 17
    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I want one child, but if we end up with more, that is fine too. I want to start having kids within the next 5 years or so.


    Post # 18
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We think we’d like 3-5 (#1 is “in the oven” now), but won’t know for sure until we get there!

    He’s always said 3, and I’ve always said 4-5!

    He’s from a family of 2, and I’m from a family of 4.

    Post # 19
    2868 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We want two. 

    He is 27 and totally  has baby fever, but I’m only 24 so want to wait awhile.  The compromise is that we plan to have a kid by the time he is 30 (as close as possible, if you ask me, lol)

    Post # 20
    2036 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I voted that we want children but aren’t sure how many.  I’m 30 and we may not be engaged or married for a few years so that may depend on the # we are able to have. 

    Mr VB and I have talked and if for some reason we cannot have kids we are okay with that.  But I really hope to have kids.  I want as many as we can afford, I’m okay with one but if we could have 3 or 4 that would be awesome too!

    Post # 21
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    We both want kids! We talked about it before being engaged. In a “perfect” world, we’ll start TTC in about two years. That will have given us a bit over two years of marriage for just us. I could probably be ok with waiting longer, but Darling Husband has baby fever! and he wants to try to have his first before 30. he wants to be able to be active and fit for as long as possible for our future kids. His own father was about 30, I believe, when he was born and his dad does have some health issues, so I think he worries a bit bout that. Also, in a “perfect” world, we would have one boy, one girl, and then adopt one of each. However, we are both pretty set on only having as many as we can realistically afford (but at least two). 

    Post # 22
    2564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Fiance says he wants three, I’m only popping out two and then getting fixed because he won’t.  I’m 27 and would like to have them both before 35.

    Post # 23
    11 posts
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We want kids, probably once SO is done with graduate school (or nearing the end), so at least 5 more years.  It’s tricky, since we are both female bodied, so we will have to figure out how to get babies in a less conventional manner.  Which is probably expensive.  So that will limit our options somewhat.  But 1-2 sounds right.  SO would like to adopt older children, but I loves me some babies.  Clearly, this issue is fraught with complexities. Good thing we have time.

    Post # 24
    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Sodo Park

    The kids talk was one we had after we got engaged – at least the confirmation of kids, anyway. I wanted to check in to make sure Sparky and I were on the same page and we were. As to the when, we decided that two to three years was a good time to start, but that’s dependent on a lot of variables. So, two years as a general sketch with a plan for two kids!

    Post # 25
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I would love to have 3 or 4! Realistically, we’ll probably have 1 or 2. We hope to TTC in about 3 years, depending on where we are in our careers. If we’re not where we want to be yet, we may wait another 2-3 years after that, which would put me in my early 30s–probably not enough time for 3 or 4 then! 🙂

    Post # 26
    3075 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    I’m still young and undecided. If we do have a kid it’ll probably just be one when I’m 27-30.

    Post # 27
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Mrs. Mouse:  He is one of four, I am one of many.

    I am one of three children between my mum and dad, my mum also had two children before they met so I have two pretty close half sisters, and my dad has a son but we never met/spoke to him so he is astranged. One of 6 all together, one of 5 close, and one of 3 direct siblings.

    We both decided four was too many, and after discussing our family dynamics we decided two was best. The middle brother of my direct siblings had SERIOUS middle-child syndrome, as does my nephew who is one of four, and once five siblings came into play life is just too difficult.

    I think anything over three is too many. Of course if we have twins and have three instead of two that’s fine, but I would prefer just the two.



    ETA LAdies I am loving the amount of people trying for some then adopting, you’ve got me thinking I might have two and then adopt a third a little later in life 🙂

    Post # 28
    398 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We are wanting to have 3 kids. Darling Husband is the middle child of three and I am the oldest of 10. Everyone we know here has only one or two kids. I think three kids is a good number for a crazy, love-filled home of mine. We are actually trying now, I’m 30 and Darling Husband is 32. Been married 8 months and Darling Husband left it up to me when we started a family. I feel like now is a good age in case we have difficulties and also I’m not working a good job in my field of study, so there’s not much of a case to wait for my job to sort out. If we get pregnant now then so much the better.

    Post # 29
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We definitely want kids but we have a few more years before we would seriously start considering having them.  I’d like to finish up school first! I keep swinging back and forth from crazy baby fever with all of the adorable children I see my friends having, and yet I don’t feel ready at all to have our own. 

    Post # 30
    1401 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’m one of four, and Darling Husband has 8 siblings in varying levels of step, half, and full. We decided on 3 because it’s enough to feel like a proper family but not so many that you have to get around in a minivan… Real rocket science decision making there! As for timing, we waited until we were married with good jobs (including good maternity pay for me) and a house. We also wanted to get started because we wanted to have all of our kids before age 35. We got twins on the first try, so we’re now a bit ahead of schedule–I’m 29 and Darling Husband is 31–so just one left to go now! We wouldn’t be broken hearted if we got another set of twins, mostly because the third one wouldn’t feel left out that way. Apparently my chances of having twins again is 1/28 now that I’ve had one natural fraternal set, so it’s a possibility we have to consider.

    Post # 31
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Mrs. Mouse:  I voted other because we already have a child from a past relationship. I put it that way because my Fiance has raised my son with me for the past two years, and has been more of a father than his biological one ever has.

    That being said, he wants two more, I would like three. We will see who wins 😉


    We’ll be starting right after the wedding because our son will be five by the time he has a sibling

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