Post # 1
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I went shopping for plants for my garden yesterday, and the cashier called him my husband! (She asked if I was paying for my husbands cart too) I smiled and said, “Oh that guy? He’s on his own!”
No one had ever mistaken him for my husband before, it was a little awkward, but I liked the sound of it. 🙂
Lol, so waiting bees, has anyone made assumptions like this for you before and what was your reaction?
Edit: I’m sure many have assumed this before (since we are 26 & 27), but yesterday was the first time the word was said.
Post # 3
@T-Rex: Yes, all the time! (Even though I’m not a waiting bee, already engaged).
The first night we met, every time this guy walked by and saw us, he kept saying, “When is the wedding?” He said he could tell we were completely smitten with each other from the moment we met, because he was there at the moment we met. (We call him Cupid.)
Then, his older sister brought up marriage and how perfect we seemed together, the first time I met her.
His younger sister’s husband (my FBIL) said, “You already seem like part of the family,” the second time I met them.
My Fiance took me to his mother’s church, where he’d grown up, and almost everyone there called me his “wife” or “fiancee” but we’d only been dating one month! It was my first time meeting these people.
A cashier at Home Depot called him my “husband” before we were engaged.
We’re meant to be. 😉
Post # 4
Yeah, that has happened a number of times. I think it has a lot to do with how old you are/look, at least in my experience. It was a really interesting phenomenon:
Around the age of 24, people stopped assuming I was unmarried and would ask or assume I was married.
Around the age of 26, people stopped assuming I didn’t have kids and would ask or assume I had kids.
Post # 5
I’m not a waiting bee either, I’m engaged too but I remember this happening when we weren’t engaged. We were buying groceries and the guy serving us asked my FH what origin he was (FH is Pakistani and this guy was too) and they began chatting about visiting their home country etc. He then turned to me and said “And you are his wife?” and FH was like “err well no we’re not married” and the guy gave him this furious look and asked why not. FH was really thrown and said “err umm we’re too young”. We were both 26 at the time, but coincidently this same cashier had handed me a Kids Go Free to the Sealife Centre voucher because he thought I was under 16 a few months before so FH thought he’d get away with it. But no, the cashier still giving him a look announced “not where WE come from!” lmao.
Post # 6
This happened to us last summer, and Señor Peep was the one who got all giggly and excited about it! Lol
Post # 7
Yes, I correct them. HE doesn’t. *eyeroll*
Post # 8
This happens to us at Safeway in particular all the time! He usually puts his phone number in and then I’m the one taking out my card to pay. The first time it happened the cashier handed me the receipt and said thanks Mrs. H—-. I just giggled at Boyfriend or Best Friend and said well now that has a nice ring to it doesn’t it!
Post # 9
Oh we got that all the time before we were engaged— not so much any more, but that’s mainly because we dropped our travel budget to pay for the wedding. We’d get it a lot at hotels, as I’d almost always put the bookings in my name because I have elite status at some of the hotels and I want the free stuff. So if he’d call the front desk or room service or whatever, they’d address him as Mr Fishbone, and when we checked in they’d do the same. I think the funniest was at Immigration/Customs pre-clearance in Vancouver, on our way back to the US, because the immigration cards are always really vague on who counts as “people traveling with you”— do they want us both on one card even if we don’t have the same last name? The officer in Vancouver asked if we were married and when the Mr started getting a little blushed at the question, the officer went full steam with some very good-natured teasing.
Post # 10
I had an older lady at Walgreen’s call Fiance my husband. Well, actually, she was talking to Fiance and called ME his wife. Something like, “Oh, and what about your wife? Does she have a discount card?” It was sweet, and I was shocked that she assumed that…since I don’t honestly think we look like a married couple. (Mostly because I look 15. Lol).
Post # 11
once, when SO was helping his sister with paperwork for a passport, we were supposed to enter a tax office building and the security guy asked us for IDs, but then looked at us closely and said sth like, “ok you can leave only the husband’s ID, the last name is same anyway”. we didn’t correct him *chuckle* that made us kinda excited till the end of the day)
Post # 12
I still love it when people assume we’re already married and call me Mrs. HisLastName 🙂 I can’t wait to have that title for real!
Post # 13
I’m not a waiting bee but I was helping a customer recently and out of the blue he asked me if me and my husband like basketball. It sounded so nice I didn’t bother to correct him.
I like it a lot better than the alternative, we are an interracial couple and I think it must confuse people or something because he will go to the supermarket or the 7-11 by our house without me and came back and say our regular cashier asked “where his little buddy/little friend” was. Why don’t they just assume I’m at least his girlfriend?
Post # 14
SO and I went on a vacation to Mexico last month and the welcome letter they put in the room was addressed to Mr. and Mrs. B____. I laughed about it, but SO thought it was pretty cool. He saved the letter which I thought was adorable.
Post # 15
@T-Rex: Whenever we go anywhere people assume that. All the old ladies in the stores always tell me I have a handsome husband, hey he’s really hott, I don’t think he ever really hears or pays attention. I just always smile and say thank you, it really does make me feel nice.
Post # 16
Yes. That happened to us at a restaurant. The waiter totally referred to me as SOs wife, and SO played into it!
I was smiling and shooting SO looks, and he just kept acting like nothing was wrong!
When we were on the way home, I was teasing him about it, and he said, “What? You don’t like being referred to as my wife?”
SO also likes to refer to me as “[His] Mrs. [his last name]” but that’s another issue. Lol. 🙂