(Closed) @ the ceremony, the Groom left-side, bride right-side…But, my dress objects!

posted 7 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

When you are wearing the dress, is the detail on YOUR right side? 

Brides stand to the left of the groom – so, when you turn to face him, your right side will be towards those in attendance…

I think you have your sides mixed – if standing at the back of your church, the brides side is on the left and the grooms side is on the right…..

 

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@oracle: in Jewish weddings, the sides are reversed.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, the PP is right. I’ve always seen the bride standing to the left of the groom. So when you turn to face each other, your right side is visible to your guests.

ETA: A ha. Never been to a Jewish wedding. 🙂

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not 100% sure what I’d do in this situation but most of me is leaning toward keeping the sides per tradition and just dealing with it for the ceremony.  Every other picture can have you flashing the right side, but I think you should keep tradition, tradition.  Ya know?  Don’t do it just for the dress. 

 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

@mosh20: ah, I see – learn something new every day! 🙂  How much time will you spendfacing the groom?  Would it be offensive to switch sides?  I’d actually think it would be cool for your guests to see your face instead of the back of your head and FI’s face.

If the pictures are your biggest concern – I wouldn’t switch because of that.  True, your church pictures won’t have the detail (at least the ones of you facing FI) but chances are your portraits will (those are typically much more interesting pictures in general and likely the ones you’ll frame, etc.)

Other than people thinking you mixed it up and forgot the Jewish tradition – I don’t see a big deal if you switch it (I’d think it would be more difficult if you were trying to seat guests that way).

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you will have lots of pics outside the church that this won’t really be a big issue. I would keep to traditional sides.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m sort of in the same predicament.  My “good side” is my right side but if I stand on FI’s right, it’ll be my left side facing the guests and the photographer.  I HATE the way I look in pictures from my left side.  So after much thought, we’ve decided to switch sides.  We’re also justifying it by telling ourselves that the way we sleep, (with me to his left), so we’re used to being that way.  haha

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

If your really worried about it I would ask your rabbi if it’s ok to switch. We have a lot of pictures of us standing facing the rabbi and it shows the back of the dress. If the back also has that detail and you’re on the right at least you’ll still get some good pics of the dress.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Do you have pics of your dress? I’m curious now!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Aww bummer, I just realized my dress is the same way!  That’s okay though, I like the plainer side as well.  And I was actually psyched once i realized the sides were switched for my Jewish wedding, because it means that if Fiance and I both lean right for the kiss (which we usually do), then my Jewish nose won’t obstruct the entire picture.  I guess you win some/lose some.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

To those wondering why the sides are reversed:

There’s actually a very important reason! A Jewish bride and groom are likened to royalty the week of their wedding. That is why at the bedeken the bride sits on an ornate chair (the throne) to await her groom. 

And the bride stands on the right side at the ceremony, because a queen is always at the right hand of her king.

Don’t switch just for the dress! There will be plenty of other pictures!

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