(Closed) The chaos has started…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sure. My mom has already asked to invite several people even though my maximum guest count is 18. She doesn’t understand that it is a solid cannot go over number. Even one more guest would put me into the next level and cost me over $5000.

So I just say “Nope. No extras unless you wanna help pay.”

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

oh the numbers game…My family is HUGE so I am trying to keep it at 300. Of course the day I order my save-the-dates my dad (parents are divorced) and my Future Mother-In-Law decide to add more people. The count is at 347…yikes. It would be less annoying if they were helping me pay for the wedding but they aren’t. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re paying for the wedding ourselves so we never gave our parents the option to invite anyone. We did the guest list entirely on our own, much easier that way. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You shuld have your fiance approach him and say he needs to narrow it down. Sorry but unless he wants to pay for the extra 7 plates then he should narrow it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yes my FI’s tried to invite about 60 friends to our 200 person wedding that they are not paying for. What we decided to do was to split our guestlist down the middle so I got 100 and he got 100 and then it was up to us to deal with our parents separately. So if Fiance wanted to let his parents bring their 60 friends, it was going to come out of his 100 guests. I think in general it’s best to let your Fiance talk to his father about it, just as it would be better for you to talk to your own parents rather than have Fiance do it if your parents were causing guestlist difficulty.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We did the same as iheartnerds for the same reason. It may sound kinda bitchy on my part, but if they don’t wanna help pay for the wedding then I don’t care what they think. And if I’ve never met someone after being with Fiance for 5 years, I don’t see why they should be invited to our wedding.

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