The cheapest engagement ring to win me back?

posted 1 year ago in Rings
Post # 2
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300 posts
Helper bee

missvickyd :  Vicky, this sounds like a very difficult relationship. It sounds like he has broken your heart and you need to talk face to face and see if he is really serious about marriage. Don’t let him waste your time, if he’s not treating you with respect then run for the hills. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

It doesn’t matter if he spent 10k on the ring, you should still run for the hills! He doesn’t plan on marrying you, he probably hasn’t broken up with the girl that he had been with for 7 years and probably lived with by the sounds of it! You are the side chick here, it’s time to move on from this guy.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

He cheats, he lies, he’s cheap (with you but not himself), and he ignores your wishes–funny thing–I think you should dump him.

Post # 5
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Worker bee

I fully stand by the cost not mattering, but the thought, love, and effort put into buying a ring. 

However, I feel he just bought a cheap ring to hook you back in this dramatic relationship. 

Did he really break up with the other woman? Did she really guilt him into staying, or is that just what he is telling you? He could be buying her a cheap ring and telling her the exact same thing.

I agree with the previous posters, cut ties and don’t look back. The dude is bad news. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

missvickyd :  

 

Dear OP,  you are not seriously contemplating marrying this man are you !!?? A man who is capablee of this sort of deception 

<em style=”background-color: transparent; color: #000000; font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 11px; min-height: 0px;”>” I learnt that this whole time he had another gf of 6 years (who I had met many times when I stayed at his!  Him telling each of us the other was a long family friend who was more like a sister to him) who he didn’t want to be with but when ever he ended it she would attempt to take her life guilting him into staying” . is not, imho ,capable of redemption , as evidenced  by all the other  stuff including the ring .

Dont let yourself get involved with these types, he is not the first  by your own admission. Value     yourself more highly, there will be someone  loving and kind and honest for you , but this one is definitely NOT him. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

This isn’t about the cheap ring– it’s about him being a lying a-hole! He’s been with this other woman for 6 years and lied straight to both of your faces. Dump his arse.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

This man is garbage. Even if he bought you a 10 grand ring, you should run! Why would you even want to marry someone who literally two-timed you and another woman, for years?!!

Post # 9
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320 posts
Helper bee

Just get rid of him. This moron is not even worth my time to type out all the reasons. You already know you should get rid of him. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

The ring is not the issue here!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

You deserve so much more…and I don’t mean the ring 😣

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

missvickyd :  I am not even going to touch the amount spent on the ring issue. Why on earth do you want to marry someone who has been cheating on you the entire length of your relationship? Do you have no self esteem? You sound so desperate to get the ring and get married you are ignoring the fact that he is a total scumbag.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

He wants a small courthouse wedding because he still has the other girlfriend. I also doubt that would ever happen.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

missvickyd :  

. . . if I didn’t love the guy I’d go to the police.

Let’s see, should you call the police?  Or should you marry the guy?  Tough call. Sounds a little like Stockholm Syndrome.

Bee, what has happened to you in this life that compels you to spend three minutes on a guy like this? An emotionally healthy woman would run screaming the other way.  And probably have pepper sprayed him for emphasis.

This guy is awful.  Sticking with him is signing yourself up for nonstop drama and heartache.  By the time he’s done with you, you’re not going to recognize yourself. 

Have you considered therapy, Bee?  There are reasons that you are drawn to and tolerate a jerk like this. Get to the bottom of that and stop hurting yourself so much.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

missvickyd :  I stopped reading after you told us about him cheating/deceiving you and another woman for AT LEAST 3 whole years—who knows how long he’d actually been lying to the other girl. This guy sounds like scum and if you let him buy you with a pretty, sparkly ring, it’ll be the worst mistake of your entire life.

 

Why do you think that this is okay? You sound completely unphased by the deceit for 3 entire years…it is concerning and points to the fact that you may want to consider therapy :/

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