(Closed) "The Childfree Life" Time Magazine Article- thoughts?

posted 6 years ago in No Kids
  • poll: Is the childfree lifestyle still cover worthy news? How do you feel about childfree living?
    This is NOT cover worthy news, and I don't respect the childfree by choice lifestyle. : (6 votes)
    2 %
    This IS cover worthy news, and I don't respect the childfree by choice lifestyle. : (1 votes)
    0 %
    This is NOT cover worthy news, and I live or plan to live a childfree by choice lifestyle. : (20 votes)
    8 %
    This IS cover worthy news, and I live or plan to live a childfree by choice lifestyle. : (66 votes)
    26 %
    NOT cover worthy- I respect the childfree by choice life, but it's not for me. I have or want kids. : (39 votes)
    15 %
    YES cover worthy- I respect the childfree by choice life, but it's not for me. I have or want kids. : (64 votes)
    25 %
    Obligatory other category : (3 votes)
    1 %
    NOT cover worthy- I respect the childfree by choice lifestyle and am undecided on having kids. : (10 votes)
    4 %
    YES cover worthy- I respect the childfree by choice lifestyle and am undecided on having kids. : (46 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 17
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @soontobemrsm11:  I’m curious.. are you US or UK? Because my experience is that older people assume you will have kids at some stage, and that if you don’t then it is because you wanted them but coudn’t have them.

    Younger people, on the other hand, tend to ask me why I would ever want children. I then have to try and justify it. I don’t see why I should have to… as far as I see it, it’s none of anyone else’s ****** business. I’m tired of having to come up with reasons. I just do, OK? And, if I can look after them adequately, then why should I have to share those reasons with anyone?

    I also posted on here once about having to continuously justify the fact that I am a church-goer. In a way… it’s similar… I enjoy living a way of life which is considered old-fashioned by some, but which is really none of anyone else’s business, quite frankly. Maybe it’s the circles I move in… I’m probably the least hard-core of the anarchists/Marxists who form a large part of my social circle, so I’m bound to feel a bit cheesed off from time to time.

    Post # 18
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    1485 posts
    Bumble bee

    @FLBlonde93:  I think it is a very interesting topic in society right now, very relevant. I for years told people I didn’t want to have kids,( then a couple years ago changed my mind hey, it happens) when I told people that i didnt want kids, I would get alot of “thats selfish!” Ect. Well since when is it SELFISH to truly examine my wants and desires, my lifestyle, what I can realistically provide to a child and not to mention the environmental impact?! 

    Post # 20
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Rachel631:  +1 the CBCers bitch about lack of respect and judgement for their choice yet they also have judgment and negativity to spew and often in the most sanctimonious way.

    I don’t care what others choose to do with their life and they shouldn’t care what I choose to do with mine. Live and let live.

    i do agree with PP on this being a topic for young women To recognize they do have a choice.

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @Rachel631:  I’m in the US. The south to be exact. & so many people here have and WANT babies in their early 20s. When my cousin got married when I was a teen (like 17?) I was told by my aunt that I was the last one to go…

    You & I have VERY different life experiences lol I told an old boss of mine that I didn’t want kids and her jaw dropped like she just saw someone kick a puppy. I do agree that older people seem to assume you want them. Even if I tell an older woman I don’t want kids, I get “oh you’ll change your mind”….FFS nope, I will not. Thank you though.

     

    Post # 23
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    1019 posts
    Bumble bee

    @trueblue14:  +1

    It’s also quite relevant because, as PPs have mentioned, people are surprisingly behind the times when it comes to deciding not to have children.

    I could do without the pictures’ implications that childfree couples travel all the time, though. They might have more time and money, but the childfree population is like the population at large in many ways. 

    Post # 24
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    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    I think it’s nice Time is covering this. It means that the concept is moving into “middle America.”

    (No offense to anyone living in middle America, it’s just the general term that it is now a widely accepted concept).

     

     

    Post # 25
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @soontobemrsm11:  Ugh. The average age for first birth here is 30, so it’s very different. So many people my age don’t want kids though. I was chatting to a friend on FB recently about how I was considering removing my contraceptive implant now I’m married, and she was just… mindblowing…

    … first, she asked me if I was ready for them and asked why I didn’t want to wait (I’m almost 30). Then she moaned about how people can’t control their kids, and how your life is basically over if you have them. Finally, she said that she didn’t have me down as a mindless breeder or a judgemental person who cared so much about the blood in my veins that I wouldn’t rather adopt.

    She’s a very outspoken person with little tact. But I know that she voices the thoughts of many of the people I know. To be honest, I see this as just another sign of how women’s bodies and reproductive choices are somehow public property, as opposed to nobody else’s **** business.

    Post # 26
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    4857 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    *eyeroll* 

    …still waiting for society to learn to mind their own buisness and worry about their own uteruses. 

    Post # 29
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    39 posts
    Newbee

    Granted I didn’t take the time to read the article based on the above comments I agree that the topic is interesting from a demoraphics standpoint and how it will shape the future, economies, development ect. Similar to how the baby boomers generation is having its effect currently. That is if the movement becauses so widespread to create a significant impact. 

    I appreciate those who chose to remain CBC but it is none of anyones business just as me having kids isn’t anyones business. I’m in my mid twenties and I remember having girlfriends in college say they didn’t want kids. At that time I would say you never know. I think deciding to be CBC is a mutual decision you make with if your life partner (if you decide to have one). Because you never really know. I think how you envisioned your life can change when you meet the one. This goes both ways also ie wanting kids to not wanting kids.

    Post # 30
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    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    They very fact that people have the audacity to try and dictate what another does with their life will never cease to piss me off.

    You don’t want children? Fabulous! I can certainly see why people choose that option.

    You do want children? Superb! I can certainly see why people choose that option as well.

    To demean someone for making this decision is ridiculous and it astounds me that this is still a big enough thing that Time feels is worthy to cover.

     

    I mean why the fudge do you care whether someone has children or not?

     

     

    For the record my parents are in the “you’re selfish if you don’t have children” camp and even though my Fiance and I would love to have a house full of them, the petulant brat in me loves telling my parents we can’t stand. 

    hildren  and would never consider having them.

    Post # 31
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Wondering who are these four votes that “don’t respect the childfree lifestyle.” No one is forcing you into it, geez… pushy much?

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