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@soontobemrsm11: I’m curious.. are you US or UK? Because my experience is that older people assume you will have kids at some stage, and that if you don’t then it is because you wanted them but coudn’t have them.
Younger people, on the other hand, tend to ask me why I would ever want children. I then have to try and justify it. I don’t see why I should have to… as far as I see it, it’s none of anyone else’s ****** business. I’m tired of having to come up with reasons. I just do, OK? And, if I can look after them adequately, then why should I have to share those reasons with anyone?
I also posted on here once about having to continuously justify the fact that I am a church-goer. In a way… it’s similar… I enjoy living a way of life which is considered old-fashioned by some, but which is really none of anyone else’s business, quite frankly. Maybe it’s the circles I move in… I’m probably the least hard-core of the anarchists/Marxists who form a large part of my social circle, so I’m bound to feel a bit cheesed off from time to time.
Post # 18
@FLBlonde93: I think it is a very interesting topic in society right now, very relevant. I for years told people I didn’t want to have kids,( then a couple years ago changed my mind hey, it happens) when I told people that i didnt want kids, I would get alot of “thats selfish!” Ect. Well since when is it SELFISH to truly examine my wants and desires, my lifestyle, what I can realistically provide to a child and not to mention the environmental impact?!
Post # 19
@Nona99: Babysitters are expensive! You are too funny.
Good point- I don’t know many young women that are Time subscribers. 🙂
I am also undecided on having children, but okay with however it turns out. My fiance and I are very blessed to live an amazing life, and I know I would have to give up a lot of travel, luxuries, and freedom to be the type of mother I would want to be.
I enjoyed your comments, so there is no need to apologize for the rant. You are doing the right thing by thinking for yourself! You are wise.
I also find it offensive when people “feel sorry” for someone who is childless by choice. There is something so inherently conceited in the logic of such a person: I feel sorry for you, because you don’t want to be like me, because you don’t know how amazing it is to be me. It’s mind boggling.
Post # 20
@Rachel631: +1 the CBCers bitch about lack of respect and judgement for their choice yet they also have judgment and negativity to spew and often in the most sanctimonious way.
I don’t care what others choose to do with their life and they shouldn’t care what I choose to do with mine. Live and let live.
i do agree with PP on this being a topic for young women To recognize they do have a choice.
Post # 21
@novacaineandlaughter: @Almost Mrs.P:
I am trying to find a way for others to access the full article for free, but have not been successful. Please accept my apologies.
I agree, and actually find it more selfish if one fails to consider such things prior to having children.
Well said, as those aspects do make it very relevant news.
Post # 22
@Rachel631: I’m in the US. The south to be exact. & so many people here have and WANT babies in their early 20s. When my cousin got married when I was a teen (like 17?) I was told by my aunt that I was the last one to go…
You & I have VERY different life experiences lol I told an old boss of mine that I didn’t want kids and her jaw dropped like she just saw someone kick a puppy. I do agree that older people seem to assume you want them. Even if I tell an older woman I don’t want kids, I get “oh you’ll change your mind”….FFS nope, I will not. Thank you though.
Post # 23
It’s also quite relevant because, as PPs have mentioned, people are surprisingly behind the times when it comes to deciding not to have children.
I could do without the pictures’ implications that childfree couples travel all the time, though. They might have more time and money, but the childfree population is like the population at large in many ways.
Post # 24
I think it’s nice Time is covering this. It means that the concept is moving into “middle America.”
(No offense to anyone living in middle America, it’s just the general term that it is now a widely accepted concept).
Post # 25
@soontobemrsm11: Ugh. The average age for first birth here is 30, so it’s very different. So many people my age don’t want kids though. I was chatting to a friend on FB recently about how I was considering removing my contraceptive implant now I’m married, and she was just… mindblowing…
… first, she asked me if I was ready for them and asked why I didn’t want to wait (I’m almost 30). Then she moaned about how people can’t control their kids, and how your life is basically over if you have them. Finally, she said that she didn’t have me down as a mindless breeder or a judgemental person who cared so much about the blood in my veins that I wouldn’t rather adopt.
She’s a very outspoken person with little tact. But I know that she voices the thoughts of many of the people I know. To be honest, I see this as just another sign of how women’s bodies and reproductive choices are somehow public property, as opposed to nobody else’s **** business.
Post # 26
…still waiting for society to learn to mind their own buisness and worry about their own uteruses.
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@whiteorchid: Thank you for posting the full article!
Post # 29
Granted I didn’t take the time to read the article based on the above comments I agree that the topic is interesting from a demoraphics standpoint and how it will shape the future, economies, development ect. Similar to how the baby boomers generation is having its effect currently. That is if the movement becauses so widespread to create a significant impact.
I appreciate those who chose to remain CBC but it is none of anyones business just as me having kids isn’t anyones business. I’m in my mid twenties and I remember having girlfriends in college say they didn’t want kids. At that time I would say you never know. I think deciding to be CBC is a mutual decision you make with if your life partner (if you decide to have one). Because you never really know. I think how you envisioned your life can change when you meet the one. This goes both ways also ie wanting kids to not wanting kids.
Post # 30
They very fact that people have the audacity to try and dictate what another does with their life will never cease to piss me off.
You don’t want children? Fabulous! I can certainly see why people choose that option.
You do want children? Superb! I can certainly see why people choose that option as well.
To demean someone for making this decision is ridiculous and it astounds me that this is still a big enough thing that Time feels is worthy to cover.
I mean why the fudge do you care whether someone has children or not?
For the record my parents are in the “you’re selfish if you don’t have children” camp and even though my Fiance and I would love to have a house full of them, the petulant brat in me loves telling my parents we can’t stand.
hildren and would never consider having them.
Post # 31
Wondering who are these four votes that “don’t respect the childfree lifestyle.” No one is forcing you into it, geez… pushy much?