So mine is a blessing in disguise kind of thing… The summer before my senior year of college, my mom was diagnosed with extensive stage small cell lung cancer. My parents insisted that I would finish my last year uninterrupted but I decided that rather than staying in the Philly area to work and continue with my voice teacher (I was a music major in college and intended to move on to pursue graduate work), that I wanted to move home to spend that year with my Mom who would die within the next year according to the doctors.
The only job I could find as a recent graduate with a degree in music was substitute teaching which was… okay. I liked it enough that I applied for a paraeducator position for a new online language program the school was bringing in. I interviewed and I got the job. While the first year in my job was really hard (I received minimal training and neither I nor the students knew what to expect) but I decided to stick it out for this year.
Meanwhile, (and this is where things get a little strange) I made friends with one of our school security guards who was old enough to be my father and everyone thought we were dating. Like, we got pulled into human resources repeatedly even though NOTHING was going on.
I decided that I wanted that to date, even if only to combat the rumors that I was dating the security guard (yes, I know, a really really stupid reason) so as a birthday gift to myself, I signed up for Christian Mingle. Two days later, this guy messages me who seems really nice. And on Saturday, I marry that guy. 🙂
Mom is doing great. She isn’t cancer free but more than three years later (a year and a half past the “best case scenario”), she is still with us and doing very well. I feel incredibly blessed. When Mom was diagnosed and told two years was the absolute best case scenario, I gave up on the idea that she would see me get married. That she gets to be here for this is… words can’t express how blessed I feel.
My second year in my job has started off amazingly well. Really. The hard work I put in last year was worth it. In my review by the company that makes the program I work with the kids on, they asked me to write a guidebook on how to do what I do for people doing the same job around the country.
I also realized through this, that I LOVE working with kids. I never thought I would like teaching or be good at it, but I am. So I am starting my masters in education in the spring with the intention of making my career as a teacher.
And all of this happened because I decided to move home after graduation instead of living in Philly.