(Closed) THE CHURCH IS DRIVING ME NUTS!!!

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

This is a tough one! It depends on how attached you are to getting married in the church you grew up in. I really wanted that, so it wasn’t really a choice for me. Luckily, my church was very accommodating.

If you’re ok not getting married in the church you grew up in, and you’re starting to really establish yourself with the church you attend now, then I would go with them! They sound much more accommodating and willing to help you through everything.

Post # 4
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

It sounds like the problem is with the secretary. 

Regardless of her “issues”, you can schedule your husband’s confirmation class at your own parish right now.  Technically, you don’t need a class for first communion, you just meet with the priest, make a valid confession, then receive the Eucharist.  The reason you have to be a certain age to receive first communion is because you need to have reached the age of reason to perform a valid confession (and be in a state of grace which is a prerequisite to receive the Eucharist). 

As for “where to get married”, one option is to perform all of the premarital work at your own parish, then get married at your parent’s church.  You can even bring your own priest if he’s willing.  If people ask why you’re doing that (particularly if the churches are nearby), explain that you need the evening meeting times for meetings and that you’d like to be married by your own priest.

 

 

 

Post # 6
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502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would go to the church you prefer. It’s your wedding you should be comfortable. 

Post # 8
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Snarky secretaries stink! I would go with the church you’re currently registered at. Although it would be nice to go to the church you grew up in, setting it up might be more trouble than it’s worth. Plus, at your new church you will be creating new traditions of your married life together. Good luck!

Post # 9
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Am I missing something? It’s the church she’s registered with that is giving her the hard time. Go with your home church. Not only are they more accomodating, but I’m  sure deep down it has some sentimental value as well.

Good Luck

Post # 10
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@Ms.Shamrock:  The way I read it “So I had an appointment to see the Father at my parents church…” it sounds like it’s the parent’s church that’s giving her the run around.

Post # 12
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5822 posts
Bee Keeper

We had our Dirty Delete baptized at the church I grew up in (in a different state) rather than the church I’m registered at.  I think you should go with whichever church makes you feel more included.  I hate when churches get elitest.  The same rules apply to ALL why do SOME feel the need to add extra stress?

Post # 13
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966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

So the church you grew up in, the one you wanted to get married in to begin with, the one that’s five minutes away, the one that has convenient class times, vs…  What exactly does hard-to-work-with church have to offer?  Is there even a decision here?  Tell your parents how much easier to work with the church you grew up in is.  Shouldn’t be an issue.

Post # 14
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@hiswifey27:  You don’t have to be registered at a church to get married there.  However, they sometimes charge more if you’re not registered.

 

 

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