Post # 1
We had originally invited about 65 people, with the thought only 2 people would decline as the rest is all close family and friends so we had kind of talked to them about it already.
Turns out a lot more won’t be making it than we thought, and we are probably only 45 people. I know it’s not based on numbers, it’s our day and I am happy it is even the closer family and friends that will be with us, but I don’t want it too small now…
Our wedding is September 1st, and our invites are pretty much all back – but we thought there was a few old family friends that we didn’t invite because we were ahead of our numbers at that time. Is it tacky to send out an e-mail or something? I am worried if we mail out another set of invites, it will be cutting too short? I know it’s tacky, but at least they would get to spend the day with us?
Does anyone have any opinions?
Post # 3
I’m personally okay with B-lists, but I would at least send them a paper invite. Michael’s has some invite kits that you can get for relatively cheap I think if you don’t want to re-order your originals.
Post # 4
Send out the invites. Even if it’s too late, it will make them feel more wanted than an email. I don’t think a B-list is tacky, it’s generous of you to invite more people rather than choose to save that money. If I was on someone’s B list, I would appreciate the invite. After all, they already know they weren’t on the A list.
Post # 5
We called/texted our B-listers first and then told them the invite was in the mail.
Post # 6
I would rather not be invited, and would decline an invitation that I thought I was B-listed.
Part of the reason for so many declines may be that you made people decide too early, so if you aren’t sure you decline.
I wouldn’t do a B-list. Enjoy your 45 guests and either do something extra special for them, that you wouldn’t have had the budget for, or do something extra jazzy on your honeymoon.
Post # 7
In your case, I would probably attend even if I thought I was B-listed. I would assume that your small guest list was made up of family and a few very close friends, so unless I thought we were really tight, I wouldn’t be offended to have not made the initial list.
I would definitely prefer a paper invitation, however.
Post # 8
I have happily accepted B List invitations in the past, so I would absolutely send out paper invitations asap. You can still get them in the mail 5 weeks ahead, which would allow for a 3 week turnaround time for an RSVP date 2 weeks before your wedding.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If you send them this weekend, people will have 5 weeks notice. It’s close, but still acceptable.
If you want to send an email, I sent this to one couple. They couldn’t attend, but appreciated the invite-
“Hi! As you know, Mike and my’s big day is coming up- Friday July 13th. Due to our budget (my being unemployed put a damper on things), we had to keep our numbers down. We limited the number of invites each family had and the number of friends we could invite. I’ve had family decline, so I’m able to invite a few more friends. I would love it if you two would be able to join us- it would great to celebrate this with you. I know this is short notice, but I wanted to extend the invite to you both, and I hope that you can attend.
Post # 10
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a B-list invite. I do, however, think there’s something wrong with an overly explanatory, apologetic approach to said invite. I would argue most folks only have a clue they’ve been B-listed if you indicate that. So don’t!
@Ms-Lace: Also, personally, I would evaluate whether I can attend a wedding based upon whether I am available/want to attend, not on which letter list I reside.