Post # 1
My Fiance exwife is a straight up nut job. He told me this when we got together but I have also seen her in action. If she could kill me and get away with it, I’m sure she would do it. I have kept all wedding info off FB and my wedding wedsite is password protected. She knows we are getting married this year but doesn’t know when. We both know if she finds out the date she will come there acting crazy and will have to be arrested.
All of a sudden, she is being the nicest person in the whole wide world. I don’t know if she is trying to get back with FI or find out the wedding date. She called Fiance on Saturday and ask if he wanted to come over for Father’s Day and she would cook them dinner and him and the kids can hang out. He told her No and that if the kids wanted to take him out, he would pick them up and take them out and he would pay for it.
She didn’t want Fiance son around me now all of a sudden it’s okay. She has had a gazillion BFs in the 5 yrs we’ve been together, none of which Fiance ever met, now all of a sudden she wanted her Boyfriend or Best Friend and Fiance to talk, kind of to get Fiance approval of new Boyfriend or Best Friend being around the kids. She is acting civilized with Fiance.
Now, the other day her and my Godson’s mother were talking in a bar. Fiance son and my Godson played on the same team so both moms were basically talking about the kids. His Exwife didn’t know that the little boy is my godson. When she realized that she was talking to someone that knew me, even though they spoke numerous times at the games, she tried to attack my godson’s mom.
Fiance is trying to give her the benefit of the doubt that she has changed but I just think it is a little to close to the wedding. When she first found out about us getting married she said Fiance son was not to be in the wedding, but since she is being so nice, Fiance wants to ask her again.
Am I being a little paranoid? Going to jail doesn’t scare her not one bit and I just think she is trying to find out about the wedding so her whole family could show up. Fiance agreed before to have police officers at the wedding because he knew if she found out the location that she would show up. Now he is thinking that she is a changed person.
What should I say or do?
Post # 3
I would just ensure that no one says anything to her about the wedding.
How are you going to keep it a secret, if their children are attending?
Post # 4
She said their son couldn’t be in the wedding but this is when we got engaged. Now since she is being so nice, Fiance wants to ask her again. I’m thinking that she will say yes just so she can find out details. She has done this whole being nice to Fiance stuff before but it has never lasted even two weeks. We are going on a month of her being nice to him but she is still acting her usual self in her daily life which makes me think she has a hidden agenda.
Post # 5
I’m just going to give my honest opinion and say not to trust her.
I love scheming, and this reeks of one. I’m never “suddenly nice,” to someone, after having a negative relationship with them.
So from woman to woman- I wouldn’t trust her. I think your Fiance should ask for his son to be in the wedding, just don’t disclose ANYTHING until needed re: details/location.
Post # 6
@the_future_mrs: I’ve included his son’s name in the programs, on the website, we are doing sand ceremony with his kids and one of his other kids will just have to pour his sand as well. The beginning of May I had surgery and she told him she wished I died, then a week later up to now she has been sooo nice to him. At first he was like let’s see how long this last but it has never lasted this long.
I told Fiance to ask her if he could be in the wedding and tell her we are having a very small wedding and give her the wrong date like the end of July and see how she acts closer to the date.
Fiance really wants to believe she has changed because he really wants his son in the wedding but I’m having a really hard time believing it.
Post # 7
If you are this concerned I would honestly elope, somewhere far, far away. Incorporating the kids is nice but having the memory of some crazy psycho show up at your wedding-not so nice.
Also, I would do it the sooner the better and also keep an open line of communication with the ex. Women like this…and I have met a few, will do anything to try to get the man back.
keep an eye on his phone and PC if he won’t upfront tell you if she is sending naughty pics or privately emailing him.
I guarantee she will.
Post # 8
@the_future_mrs: Agree with this. She sounds completely off her rocker. Watch your back.
Post # 9
If I was in your position I would stand my ground and not want her anywhere near my wedding. That sounds like a disaster waiting to happen (and she sounds like a disaster that already happened)!
Post # 10
keep your friends close, and keep your enemies closer!! This is probably what she has decided to do, beware and good luck!!
Post # 11
@mrsjjohnson2b: She told her son that she wished you died?!
She has a major case of the cray cray. Good God, keep her far away on your wedding day.
And not that I’d ever say I wish someone was dead- but in the event that I did, I would not have an epiphany and change my death wish over a month. That’s a pretty extreme thing to say!
Post # 12
She sounds like she has serious issues. If she behaving this erractically, attacking random people in public which she can get arrested for, I wouldn’t just be worried about the wedding I be worried about those kids, if she really is doing all those crazy things.
Don’t trust her, limit your interactions. also keep the kids in the dark with the specfic dates. Also I hope you guys planned it on a weekend that you have the kids.
People get so nasty after a divorce its crazy. My cousin also had this issue with his ex after they been broken up for four years and even though she had a new boyfriend at the time. He planned the wedding during his time of custody. Mom of course claimed over her dead body was her son attending, and it took his lawyer calling the police for her to hand his son over. That stressful and the last thing anyone should be dealing on their wedding day. But one option you guys should keep in mind if she should happen to find out the dates.