Post # 1
So, My wedding date is set for August 26th 2011. I have my colors picked, Jade Green, Black, Silver, and White. I know my bridesmaids, and I am pretty sure He has picked all his groomsman, and I have a slew of apocathery jars for the candy bar I plan on having. Other then that, I got nothin.
The plan was a wedding in Vermont, catering through our contacts at culinary school, a ceremony location set on a cliff-side bend in a river. Then I went home for the holidays, and my mom and some other friends and family have started planting the seed of us getting married back in New Jersey.
My aurgument: New Jersey, not nearly as pretty as were we were living in Vermont, and by having it in NJ I lose out on having an amazing group of Chefs create my menu for a reasonable price.
Her/thier augument: easier for guests, more options for locations/vendors.
So, needless to say, Im torn. Any suggestions???
Post # 3
For one thing – more options means more regrets/more headaches.
Is NJ going to be much cheaper?
How far away is Vermont from where you would get married in NJ?
Post # 4
Remember it is your wedding, if they love you they will be there no matter where it is. It will be easier for you if you plan it locally to where you are. Don’t let them change your mind to something you don’t want.
Post # 5
Well, wouldn’t it be easier for you to plan a wedding in New Jersey where you live? Planning a wedding is a big project and there will be lots of visits to florists, bakeries, hair dressers, make up artists, musicians and if you’re not within easy reach it’s very difficult. Planning a wedding in Vermont would be like a destination wedding. That’s not to say you can’t do it, I’m sure it’d be beautiful, but it’s worth considering what would be easiest for YOU.
Post # 6
I am living in Vermont, about 9 hours away from our hometown. Back in Jersey we have a lot more options for people to stay without having to book hotels, as my parents and his family own multiple houses that our guests could stay at. With my fiance’ and I both going to college full time, it may be an issue getting home to make some of those arrangements you mentioned. Some things wont be that difficult, hairdresser, I’d go with a local place I always used. Florist, the same. DJ, same, and Ill be doing my own make-up. Cake tasting, could be an issue, menu tastings, we are going to utilizing some of our chef friends, so we trust their taste buds. Back in Jersey I’ll have access to my mom, his family. Its a tough desicion. Thanks for the insight!
Post # 7
How many people would you like to have at your wedding? And are they all from NJ? Would you be upset if a fairly big % of people you invite RSVP no, or end up not showing up?
Many people are unable to make a big trip that takes 9 hours (that’s 18 hours of driving just in one weekend), and it is very considerate of your NJ family to offer places for people to stay so they can save money on hotel rooms. I think if you want more people to show up, and most of your family/friends live much closer to your hometown, you should have the wedding there.
You can always have a party with your Vermont friends–and invite your chef buddies of course–after you get back. Nothing wrong with two parties!