Post # 1
They moved in about 3 months ago and seemed like a sweet loving couple, that is until a few weeks ago when the fighting started. They scream, throw things, slam doors, and he pushes her around. Last week I was about to call the police when another guy came and made the Boyfriend or Best Friend leave. This brings back bad memories and I’m concerned for them both.
Last night my SO was over, I had told him about how they fight but he got a front seat show. Once again I picked up my phone to call for help when the Boyfriend or Best Friend took off and went speeding away in his car. We could hear her yelling “you’re the biggest mistake I ever made” as he pulled away.
I looked at SO and said I never want to be in a relationship like that again. That’s when SO looked me in the eye and said ” I know I haven’t put a ring on your finger yet but I’m going to. You say things sometimes like I’m not going to be around. You will never be in a relationship like that again because this is your last relationship. I’m not going anywhere, I love you and every day I see that you are the one for me.” This made me happy but it also made me think… Why do I say things like that? The answer… In my life the other shoe has always dropped and I don’t know if I’ll fully believe he won’t disappear until I’m at the church saying those vows. The good thing is I have an SO who takes the times and reassures me without being asked. I didn’t even know I needed it. Eye opening and lovely all at the same time.
As far as what to do about the fighting next door??? I sent a message to the leasing office to see what they could do to help and next time even if the Boyfriend or Best Friend takes off I’m going to call the police. The arguments are escalating and I don’t want things to get worse.
Post # 3
It’s must have been nice to hear your SO reassure you. I hope the neighbours are evicted or at least sort themselves out.
Post # 4
I am the same way! I have been through a divorce so even though I know that SO is looking at rings and we are planning on moving in together in the summer and have tentatively set next October as our wedding time I can’t help but think that the bubble is going to burst. Maybe he will change his mind or my insecurity will drive him crazy. It is hard for my rational brain to get the irrational side of me to shut up!! Like you I am lucky that my SO gets it and loves me through it. You should call the police so there is a complaint on record just in case. You are good to be so concerned.
Post # 5
It’s definitely hard for me to be in healthy relationships now because I’ve been around so many toxic ones. It’s weird for me to not be around arguing. Your SO sounds really sweet. He’s definitely the type of guy you should keep around 🙂
All you can really do is call the police/complain to management. They’re adults…unfortunately you can’t make them get along or break up. I’m sure that’s hard to watch though. I know it would be for me. Whenever I hear couples scream and throw things it really upsets me and gets my anxiety going from 1 to 10 instantly.
Post # 6
@impatientlywaiting20: Exactly! I didn’t even notice I was being insecure. That darn protective wall. SO had to swim a moat, walk through fire, climb a wall and fight a dragon to bring me around. Thank God for men like ours.
Post # 7
@glittermoon: 0 to 10 in the blink of an eye. I responded to a girl who posted for advice on her abusive relationship and my hands actually started shaking when I was typing. Crazy
Post # 8
What a beautiful thing for your SO to say 🙂 I hope that the neighbor situation gets resolved soon for their sake and your sanity.