My BF dated a girl for years but he broke things off with her because they wanted totally different things regarding kids and basically life in general. She moved away. Two YEARS later, we started dating, and right around that time she moved back into town and their old, big friend group took her right back in.
Upon moving back (and finding out BF was dating me), she started texting him saying “I HAVE to meet the new girl and approve of her lol.” He thought she was just trying to make things less awkward if we all went out.
The first time I ever met her was at a happy hour and the first words she ever said to (well, about me but in front of me to my BF) were “wow! I mean, if you’re not going to date me, you might as well date someone hotter than me!” She spent the rest of the night trying to be my BFF, and she twice got me alone and starting asking me things like “so, what do you love most about ______? He’s a really odd guy, you know. I don’t think anyone could ever have the connection he and I had” etc. Needless to say, my Bullshit Meter was firing everywhere.
BF, however, gave me the whole ‘we’ve-been-broken-up-for-years-you’re-paranoid-she’s-just-being-nice’ line, but I knew in my gut she was up to something.
Coincidentally, the apartment complex she moved into was the same one I lived in. When she found that out, she got my number and would text me almost daily asking what I was up to…and if BF and I were hanging out that night, when he’d be getting there, etc. BF still didn’t find this odd.
Shortly thereafter, she began texting BF asking him to do things for her: help her hang stuff, fix a fan, feed her pet when she was going to be away, etc. He found ways out of all of them.
After about a month of this, I mentioned in passing to a mutual friend that his ex was trying to buddy up with me. The girl looked at me like I had 6 heads and said “…and you’re not buying it, right? She’s made it pretty clear she wants to date ____ again.” Parroting my BF, I told her she was just ‘being friendly.’
That weekend, we went to a party and the ex wasn’t there. During, a good friend of the ex said to me “I think it’s so nice you’re trying so hard to be friends with Katie, especially with how uncomfortable she is.” Uncomfortable? “Yeah, you know” the friend said “she still really loves _____ and it hurts her he moved on so quick.” 2 years later, remember.
That same night, I was forwarded a screen shot from the mutual friend. The text was from Katie, and in it she sounded like a different person. Flat out called me an idiot and a bimbo and said that i’d be ‘history’ in no time and she and my BF would get married.
With all of this new information, I went to BF. He finally ‘got’ it, and we cut off all contact with her, and she blocked us on FB and ubruptly moved away again.
Literally 3 months later, we find out she got married. According to a sibling of hers, she was dating some poor guy the entire time she was back in town, and was just weighing her options.