(Closed) The "Crazies"

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
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    Thats never happened to me

    Yes Ive had a crazie in my life

    Ive had that happen more than once

    Ive been that woman( explain)

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @nikkidrew90:  This kind of stuff always makes me laugh. A man is not something that can be “stolen” unless he actually wants to go. He should be happy to cut someone like that out of his life. If he’s not, then I would be happy to let him be “stolen” from me 😛

    I have had bitches in my life like this before. It didn’t end well for them 😀

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @badabing88:  I have a very similar story, but it was about my FI’s friend (and also one of his exes). Seriously, bitches be crazy. It’s sad that it takes them so long to figure out that the behaviour is not appropriate. Thank god they both finally got it 😛

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Some people are nutjobs.

    Post # 20
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    @MrsPanda99:  It really speaks to a fundamental difference between myself and BF when we first started dating. Prior to that incident, he assumed everyone only had good intentions and took everything they said at face-value. I, on the other hand, have NEVER been that way and when I suspect someones motives are off, I’m right 98% of the time.

    Post # 21
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    Blushing bee

    Just once, but god, she was enough.

     

    About a week before my SO and I got together “officially”, we went to a big party together.  At one point, after everyone had had a lot to drink, I was standing in one room talking to some people when my best guy friend came up to me and asked if I was still dating my SO, and I said yes, and he said I should go into the hall because I just walked through and had seen a girl kissing him. I went to find my SO, and we went into another room to talk, and he told me the whole story: that he had gone into the hall to take a phone call, that she came after him and waited till he hung up and then cornered him and started telling him all this crazy stuff. They met once before about 6 months previously, and she was bringing up everything they had talked about, and how perfect they would be together because of how similar their families were, and how I was no good for him, and here’s the kicker: SHE TOLD HIM WHO I HAD SLEPT WITH BEFORE, which was absolutely NONE of her goddamn business, and then she leaned in and kissed him. He politely excused himself and that’s when I came in. 

    I couldn’t believe it. We had already had a discussion about our previous sex lives so she didn’t fain anything by telling him, but what did she think was going to happen? How did she think that was going to work? Ugh. And the worst part was, I saw her the next day, and she was trying to be my best friend. 

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @badabing88: That’s the same for us. He used to assume people were good (especially his friends – they were his friends afterall) and I always assume people need to prove themselves. I don’t just assume everyone is kind and has my best interests at heart. Fiance has learned his lesson.

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @nikkidrew90:  Unfortunately yes, several times. We had a situation with two crazies when I first started dating my Fiance. Luckily, after a few times he “got it” and cut off all contact with them. I can’t even wrap my head around this kind of behavior it’s really sad and pathetic. When we got engaged they tried to make contact again and one of them (his ex) even sent a picture of herself to him saying “congratulations, so happy for you.”  SURE you are… go kick rocks!

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Not really… not that i can remember…

    But a friend of mine and me “fought” to get with the same guy (We were all living in different cities, so it would be a LDR) i “won”(?), we were together for 3 years, he cheated on me, we broke up and about 3 years later my friend and my ex started dating, i told her it was a bad idea… he broke her heart 3 months later, oh well. :/

     

    Post # 25
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    Worker bee

    My SO had one ex, she was very annoying and frustrated me a lot, she would send him text messages about how much she loved him and wanted him back, mind you she cheated on him.  She would try to get her family members to friend me on Facebook, which I declined.  My breaking point came when she sent him a picture of her naked private part, which had me, up in arms, the next time she called his phone I had a couple of words to say to her.  After that he blocked her from his phone and cursed her ass out, mind you that was the first couple of months of our relationship, that was about three years ago headache.  Just a couple of months ago she contacted him on Facebook talking her bs again, which pissed me off again, so my SO cursed her out again, after exchange of words he blocked her.  Haven’t heard a word from her life is back to being perfect again.  I would think after him telling her countless times for her to leave him alone she would get the clue and move on.  Also she had a baby and is dating someone else right now can you say psycho.    

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee

    There were no crazy exes involved but there have been two crazy women going after my ex.  The first was my friend, through whom I met my ex.  She used to talk so much trash about my ex before we dated, telling me that he was a player and an awful guy to be with. But I trusted my gut, gave him a chance, and we dated for awhile.  She went absolutely ballistic when she found out I decided to go out with him, so she then turned on me and would trash talk me at every turn to him. She tried super hard to break us up and tried to sleep with him whenever I was out of town. It took him awhile to see the truth, but I was the “super nice sweet girl” back then and didn’t know how to stand my ground and put her in check.  I have learned since.

    The second crazy c*nt (excuse my language but she truly was a c*nt in every sense of the word) was a MARRIED coworker at my first job after college.  We were similar in age, but from the first day I started that job she had it out for me.  She started to COPY me in everything that  I did, esp with hair and fashion.  I used to dye my hair this dark auburn red (my trademark) and she dyed her black hair the same as mine. She completely changed her hairstyle and what she wears to what I wore, so people used to mistake us as twins a lot (fun times). My ex (same one mentioned above) was a very good looking guy (women joked that he was “Mr. GQ”) and even though this crazy c*nt was married, she wanted my ex BAD.  He used to visit me at this job and we’d eat lunch together, so whenever he came by she always always made sure she was within eye contact and would sway her hips & stick out her ass & boobs seductively on front of him.  One time my ex mistook her for me once and touched her shoulder, she immediately turned around and started flirting with him. When he tried to excuse himself, she grabbed his arm and pressed her tits against them, and when I came around the corner she totally ignored me and just ran her fingers through his chest as she walked away.  After that incident my ex stopped coming by for lunch, but whenever he picked me up or dropped me off, we would see her staring holes into him in the background.  That job was complete crap so I left after a year to go into law school.  When she found out I was quitting for school, she made a huge deal that she was going to quit and go back to school to become a nurse practitioner.  My last two weeks there, she made it a point to come into my office to talk to my office mate (we shared an office) ALL THe TIME to talk about how competitive her nurse prac. program was and how much crazy money $$ she was going to make when she finished.

    Seriously, I don’t know where or how these crazy women come to be.  But I absolutely believe in karma and know they’ll definitely get theirs for the pain & grief they cause to other women.

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Well my situation is a bit different, in that the ‘crazies’ have been gay men.

    My Fiance is bisexual.  Something I’ve always known, knew for the 3 years we were friends before we got together as a couple.  He’s also been engaged to a woman before – it ended because she was too young, 7 years younger than Fiance.

    He then had male FWBs for about 3 years, then started seeing me.  And that’s when the problems started.  Alot of his gay ‘friends’ wouldn’t accept that he was now in a committed relationship with a woman, and one in particular was a complete pest.  At one gathering, a gay male ‘friend’ even tried to shove his tongue down my FI’s throat…right in front of me!  He got told where to go by my Fiance in no uncertain terms….

     

    We’ve been together for 4 years now, and every so often he still gets a inappropriate message on facebook or by text.  On FB, he deletes and blocks them, texts he ignores.  I find it extremely disrespectful of me, of us and our relationship.

    Sadly, the actions of a few idiots has made me very untrusting of male gays.  I know it doesn’t make sense, but I am now very wary.

     

    Post # 28
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    I haven’t exactly had this type of crazy, but there was a girl my Fiance dated/was friends with a few years ago. He never wanted to be in a relationship with her officially and said she was free to date other people. They broke things off about two years before we got together. WHen he and I first became official, he wanted to change his FB to reflect that he was in a relationship with me, something he has never done before (and that I did only to please him, i usually leave that section blank since i dn’t use FB for dating and never have).

     

    Anyway, she got all mad after seeing we were together and texted him “can I ask you a question” while he was driving. I told him to respond and he didn’t so she wrote back “never mind a few hours later. The next day she posted slanderous stuff about him online, saying he was so bad at relationships, communicating and was emotionally abusive etc. when he just didn’t want that with her. This was TWO years after they broke up from their non-relationship! It just made her look nuts and REALLY insecure and she destroyed any chance of a friendship they could have had.

    PS Nothing she said has applied in our situation. Maybe he was bad at relationships (he never was with anyone else while they were dating even though they weren’t exclusive, and she never accused him of that) but he’s not at all emotionally abusive and hes an amazing communicator. The more time we spend together, the more bitter she looks .

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I had that happen to me. It was in high school, though. The poor girl now lives with the father of her baby. They aren’t together and never were, it was a super short casual thing and pregnancy was an accident. But she lives with him because she’s broke and she adores him, and he dates/sleeps with other girls, so I can only imagine the level of crazy she exudes on those girls.

    Fiance has had to deal with one full blown crazy (I legit had to get a restraining order) and two partial crazies. One guy who we were FRIENDS with (!!!) told Fiance that he would (TMI) eat me out if it cost them their friendship?!?! What!! And then in front of all our friends he cried at the bar (actually cried. laid his head down on the bar and cried) because I said no and made a WTF face when he asked if he could eat me out. That was so weird. I haven’t seen him since the beer tears incident a year ago.

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee

    There was one guy I was just talking to who was about to go in the military. He and his gf had seperated a while before this, but when she found out she cornered him at work and flipped out on him. Long story short, I wrote to him in basic and when he got out he decided to be with her, then we talked again, but eventually I stopped waiting since we were never in a relationship. Now I’m with my wonderful SO, although me and military guy do occasionally text and catch up.

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