(Closed) The cruel words of my sister

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Just to clarify, is she jealous because of you and your FI’s age or because of how long she and her SO have been together? (assuming it’s longer than you and your FI?)

I think that, while her wording was WAY off-putting, you could look at it this way: At least she was honest? It’s totally not your fault that she feels this way and really there is not a lot you can do about it. Is she a naturally jealous person?

As far as dealing with it, I’ve got no personal experience with siblings, but I have a friend that acted the same way. She became stand-offish, hard to get in touch with, etc, right after Fiance and I got engaged. It’s hard to realize that someone’s jealousy is SO strong.

Post # 5
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am really sorry to hear that! *hugs!!* My little sis and I are really close, but we aren’t really closer to our older sister (who is much older than us.) So I get how you feel somewhat. It sounds like she is letting jealousy rule her life, and it sucks that she is taking it out on you by not supporting you as your Maid/Matron of Honor and as a friend. Is there any way you can talk her into spending at least some time with you so maybe she can see for herself that you might have more in common than she thinks? Sound like she might have a bit of growing up to do, IMO. Sorry you have to deal with this. Best wishes!!

Post # 6
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

There’s really not a lot to say, other than “I’m sorry you feel that way, I hope you know that I wish the same for you.” Or whatever. It’s really awkward to be TOLD, but I’m sure you’ve been wondering if she’s avoided you for so long!

Yeah I wasn’t saying that it was the ONLY reason, but I’m sure both would be contributing factors. I’d imagine it’s the same reasoning anyone gets jealous of others being engaged/married, it just sucks that she can’t separate her feelings of jealousy and wanting to be married from you. She can’t honestly expect you and your Fiance to put your lives on hold because she and her SO can’t afford a wedding.

Good luck, and try not to take it to heart. :/

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