Post # 1
Hi there fellow bees- I had an improptu visit from my mother in law and one of my flower girls this weekend and since they don’t live too close to us I decided it would be a great opportunity to look for a wedding dress. I had been out shopping once before and saw a dress that I liked but wasn’t in love with. I also have been looking online and found several styles that I like, but they all are featured on models of size 0-4…Ugggg. I didn’t expect to find a dress that I really liked but when I went to this local bridal salon they had a couple dresses that where contenders! The problem was this, 1- I was really unimpressed with the girl who “helped” me at the bridal boutique. Not to mention that she probably only weighed 100 lbs and I’m about 180 she was very unhelpful and made me feel so self concious. I really like to take pics to see what the dress looks like on me before I commit but the unhelpful clerk told me “no picutures allowe- store policy”- LAME! So my Maid/Matron of Honor snuck a pic for me anyways- Love that girl. I’m feeling frusterated because I can’t seem to get comfortable with wearing a white dress that make me look so big and I really just want to loose about 20lbs, call it a day and be comfortable with myself… I’m happy being about 165lbs. I know I’m kind of going all over the place here but I’m wondering what your expiereices have been with having fittings/ trying on dresses- do you feel okay with having a clerk half your size help you into a dress?! AND- What about feeling okay with your image with a healthy weight but not being stick thin?!
Thanks for your input 🙂
Post # 2
arielmarieae: I’m wishing you good luck with your dress search. I went to David’s Bridal on Sat., 3/15/14, and was greeted by a very knowledgeable and kind consultant that couldn’t have weighed more than 90 lbs. At first, I felt like why in the hell would they send her over here and not give me the chick that was more my size…I’m a size 14. Anyway, this consultant was awesome. I didn’t feel as if she was looking at me a certain kind of…fat chick…way! ***I wish someone would call me fat*** I digress! !! Anyway, I ended up getting my dream dress. Should have it in about 3mos.
Post # 3
I feel like just because someone has a different body shape than you does not mean they are necessarily judging you! You want to feel good about yourself, so you need to find a consultant that helps you find what you love. That doesn’t mean she has to look like you. This girl sounds unhelpful. But her unhelpfullness and her size are not related!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I feel you, OP. I am heavier than you but shorter, I’ll bet. I can’t say that the girl who helped me was at all unhelpful; quite the opposite. She was petite, but I never felt that she was judging me. That has nothing to do with your size; your attendant just sucked. But I know what you mean about not “feeling it” in the big white dress. Maybe that traditional style isn’t what you should go for! I’m doing a short dress, and it feels a LOT more ME: fun and bridal and awesome, but not BRIDAL.
As for losing weight– you can do it if you decide to. Personally, I’m not deluding myself tht some miracle is going to occur in the next three months and cause me to suddenly get motivated, but that’s just me.
It’s possible that you just need to go somewhere else with a decent attendant and different styles of dresses.