Post # 31
My husband. My mom wanted to be but I would not have found her calming or helpful Given our relationship. I would consider having my Mother-In-Law next time if she wanted to be, since I don’t think she will have the chance with her own daughter. I generally don’t feel it’s a spectator event, though.
Post # 32
As the plan stands now (due in October) it will be Darling Husband and the midwife with me. Obviously if I need a c-section, that’s different.
I love my mum. We have a great relationship. I will need her help in the early days (and later days) I am sure. But she doesn’t need to be in the delivery room with us. In fact, she’s not even going to be at the hospital. The family will wait at home for news and when we’re ready for visitors.
Post # 33
I was going to have my mom and Darling Husband the whole time but in talking about it with Darling Husband, we discussed having him and my mom there until it was time to push and then her leaving. I think i just want that one special moment between me and my Darling Husband
Post # 34
We don’t have kids yet, but we’ve discussed this and it will be just Darling Husband and the medical crew (OB, scrub tech, mommy nurse, and baby nurse). I’m a nursing student so I would probably allow a student in if one was assigned to my nurse. Family will know when we go to the hospital, but we don’t want visitors until we are moved to recovery and I’ve had time for skin to skin and breastfeeding!
Post # 35
Kids are a few years away for us, but I will not allow anyone in the room besides Darling Husband and appropriate medical staff. Any other family can wait, preferably until we get home from the hospital.
Post # 36
We have talked about it and decided that I will have fi and my sister there. No where near the business end though. Will also have midwife, other medical personal and maybe 2 students 🙂
Post # 37
I don’t have kids yet – but I think I want just Darling Husband and the birth photographer (who also happens to be one of my best friends…I myself am a photographer so that is really important to me). I’m not particularly close with my mom and Darling Husband really doesn’t like her so I just wouldn’t want to “deal” with her in the delivery room. I’d be fine with my stepmom or Mother-In-Law coming in but I don’t know that they would.
Post # 38
It was always definitely just my husband and the medical team, always our plan. And I wouldn’t change that for anything. It was so special and amazing and beautiful to have just us two. We were in a teaching hospital and ended up with multiple medical personnel there for the actual delivery but that didn’t matter at all. All I could focus on was my husband and the nurse coaching me on pushing.
Post # 39
My mom was in the room, as well as his mother. My son was the first born in both side of the family so everyone was excited. It was special, I appreiated havig them there.
Post # 40
i will have my mom and dh.
Post # 41
I have three sons. For my first delivery I had my now ExH, sister, mother, and two dear friends. I always planned to have my sister with me, I couldn’t count on ExH to find me a nurse if I wanted an epidural or advocate for me in any other way. My mother is a drama queen PITA and I was sure I wouldn’t want her in there. When it came time to push and the doc said anyone who wasn’t involved in the creation of the child could leave I laughed–as a pp said I couldn’t have cared if a marching band was in the room at that point. Neither he nor the nurses were involved in the creation, right? I ended up with my ExH, sister, mother, and two dear friends present. DS was a posterior presentation and it was not a quick delivery. But it was amazing and I wish all of my deliveries had been so special. I felt so surrounded by love and support. My second son was delivered in the middle of the night following months of pre-term labor, hospitalizations, and bed rest with just my ExH. Boy #3 was an emergency c-section. I cherish the memories of that first delivery.
I have attended the births of my best friend’s first son and two of my sister’s children. They were magical experiences.
Post # 42
jjbeebee: Another for Darling Husband only.
Post # 43
Just my husband, the surgeons, nurses, and NICU staff. But either way, would have just been him, and luckily my mom has no interest in watching me give birth.
Post # 44
My Darling Husband, my mom, and the medical team (at the time of actual delivery, it was pretty crowded! My midwife, OB, two nurses, the nursery staff, and a NICU team standing by because there was meconium when my water broke). I originally had this thought of it being just my Darling Husband and necessary medical staff (as few as possible), but I’m glad my mom was there, and so is my Darling Husband – by that point, things were a bit overwhelming, and he was happy to have her there to tag team helping/supporting me, and also for her to provide him with some comfort and support!
Post # 45
my Darling Husband and the doula were the only outside people I had… the rest were hospital staff. We actually didnt even tell our families I was in labor and they were called about 2 hours after Dear Daughter was born. it was kinda nice just having some time for US and knowing we were the only ones who knew she was finally “here” 🙂