(Closed) The delivery room…who was in it?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It is ok to have your mom there, but I would strongly suggest against having any Mother-In-Law or anyone else there. 

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

During my labor – my mom, sister and Brother-In-Law, dad and husband hung out with me (I was in labor for 24 hours).  When it came time to push my Darling Husband was by my head holding my hand and talking to me and my mom and sister each had a leg.  There was also my OB and 2 nurses (one on each side of me helping to push my stomach to get the baby out – complicated delivery).  Also in the room on standby was 4-5 people on the NICU team since my baby boy was born 5.5 weeks early.  It was nice to have the people there who were there especially because afterwards my husband stayed with me because I was distraught and my mom and sister were able to take those pictures of my son’s first moments as well as his first moments with us.  I think next time it will just be me and Darling Husband – especially since my mom will probably be taking care of our little guy when we decide on #2.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

TTC #1 but we have talked about it already. During labor (if i am up to it) it will be Darling Husband, his mom & dad, my stepmom & daddy and maybe which ever close firnds want to drop by. When it is GO TIME, right now the plan is to just have me, Darling Husband, Dr, and nurse in the room. I don’t want everyone seeing my business and i want it to be a special time for Darling Husband and I.

Also after baby is born we want atleast 45 minutes to ourselves and baby then everyone else can come in.

And we will have my bestfriend/photographer in the rrom from labor to birth and after to capture all the pics!

We shall see what happens.

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Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My husband and the doula. Other than that just medical personnel. My mom was sickly (and has since passed) and my dad was spending all his time tending to her so he visited me in the hospital 2 days later. My Mother-In-Law expected us to call her when I was in labor but instead we called her once the baby was born, she also visited 2 days later but even that turned out to be a mistake. Be very selective who you want to be there during and even after. People might say they want to see the baby yet not even look at the baby anyway.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

jjbeebee:  I would have *loved* for my mom to be there, but she is squeamish and wouldn’t even come to the hospital until it was over.

With my first son, my older brother and my SO were there. With my 2nd, my SO was out of town, so it was my SIL and the same brother from the 1st time. My older sister may have been there too, but I’m not really sure. Crazy huh? Well it was 15 years ago and I was happily in a medically induced fog, so yeah…there’s that. Ha! 

I love my (big) family being around me and I am fully entertained by their craziness, so the whole idea of the special little cocoon of family warmth and sunshine with just the three of us never seemed appealing to me. That’s just me though. To each her own. 😊

Post # 52
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2010

jjbeebee:  I’m due December 2nd and it will be my Darling Husband and our photographer in the room! I had thought about having my mom in there but our hospital only allows 2 people to come with me and we REALLY want my friend in there (who is a professional photog) to take those once in a lifetime pictures!

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’ll be my hubby, midwife, doula and mom.I do NOT get along with my Mother-In-Law at all and she would literally only cause drama…i hope she doesn’t think shes coming in!

Post # 54
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Bumble bee

Hubby and Me for both!!! Love my Mom but had no desire for her to be in the room. But I understand women who do. The ones I don’t get are the ones on ” The Baby Story” who have their parents, uncle, neighbor, etc in there while videographing the whole thing!!!! Lol!!!!! 

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m due in September and it’ll be just my husband and I, plus my OB and any other medical staff that needs to be there. All along I had said I wanted my mom there, then once I got pregnant I changed my mind – and who knows when the time comes I could change it back and ask her to stay. I’m fine with people being in the room as I’m laboring (once I get an epi and don’t want to scream at everyone lol and am feeling more comfortable) but once it comes time to push, unless you made this baby or are delivering her, get out!

Post # 56
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Newbee

My daughter is 8 months old now. And it was just my fiancé/her father and I. We decided we wanted it to be intiment for us, so we actually didn’t even tell anyone until a couple hours after she was born. Because you want to bond as a family together first and relax after everything you just went through. 

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Just me and my man. I didn’t need anyone extra looking at my hoo-hah getting split open. I wouldn’t have even told anyone I was in labor if I wasn’t under threat of harm. 🙂

Post # 58
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

For the actual delivery of DS, I had DH (FI at the time…we married three months after DS was born), my then doctor (who switched specialties sometime after I had my post-partum follow up. I got established with someone else later on), and the nurses. It’ll probably be  the same way again when I go in late January/early February. With that said, I’m hoping one or both of our moms or another family member will be on standby again just in case Darling Husband needs backup. (Besides, my mom used to work in a group home for teenage moms and was even a birth coach for some of those girls. i would not have been opposed to having her in there if she was.) 

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Post # 59
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

 

X0JLYNN03:  I had an induction and a long one at that when I had DS in 2012. Both our moms and my stepdad visited us during the labor but stepped out to the waiting room for the delivery part. One bit of preparation I’ll have to do for January is having someone to watch DS for me when I go to the hospital. (I’m a stay-at-home mom and feel compelled to do my own childcare more often than not. If I must have someone else watch DS for me due to an appointment or something, that’s normally where either Darling Husband or Mother-In-Law comes in.)

Post # 60
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Shortly after we were admitted to the hospital my mom came by and hung out with me for an hour or so. My water had broken but I was not feeling the contractions yet so I was still feeling happy and cheerful. My SO was there also and his parents stopped by a couple times which was very annoying since we told them not to. They just did it anyway right when I was about to go to try to sleep. I had not slept the entire night before and was very tired. Shortly after they came by the contractions started getting really bad. We kicked them out once I started hurting. I was in labor all night and by the time our baby was born, I hadn’t slept in almost 48 hours. I am still annoyed at them for robbing me of my last chance to get a little sleep before having my baby because I was so exhausted throughout labor.My SO and the medical team were the only ones there for the actual birth but his parents were already waiting outside the doors by the time we were heading to the recovery room after giving birth. Next time I’m not letting anyone know until we are ready to see people. Like days after. To me, it is very personal and having spectators see you scream and cry in pain is not something I want. And I don’t want anyone interfering with the bonding. 

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