Post # 1
Ok ladies is it just me or when registering for gifts there ARE some things that you just DONT register for????? When I got married this past may I remember being somewhat price cautious when it came to the gifts I suggested for my guests to purchase. I remember at Target I (stupidly) lol gave my hubby the registry gun while I went and used the restroom only to come back and find half the electronics department on our list! I told him it was rude to ask guests for pricey gifts that aren’t necessarily a necessity. I did let him keep the DVD blue ray player on there which I took a TON of flack for from family for even having on my registry.
Now I am shopping for a very good friend of mines wedding in two weeks. Going through her registery from Sears I’m finding the stuff she registerd for a little on the rude side. I hate admitting that I feel she is being rude but her is the jist of her registry.
- $400 lawn mower
- $400 tool chest
- $1,000 flat screen TV
- $300 Surround sound system
- $400 camcorder
And that is just the beginning! I’m already doing all of her and her girls’ make-up and hair for free so I’m now thinking of skipping the gift. Is that rude of me???? I just don’t remember being that bold when registering. Is it just me????
Post # 3
I think that what is “okay” to register for changes from family to family. In general I don’t mind pricey items on the registry as long as there are also cheaper items. If she has a bunch of stuff in the under 50 and under 100 range then I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. I’m not really sure who would buy her a $1,000 tv…. but maybe she thinks 5 of her friends might go together as a wedding gift or something.
Post # 4
I think its great you are doing the make-up for free and that IS enough of a gift… however, if you see something “small” on the registry list, grab it and call it a day!
Post # 5
I think as long as there is a nice range of prices on the registry it isn’t a very big deal. We registered for one big ticket item – the Dyson Animal Vac at $548.00. Of course kind of went into it knowing really no one would get it unless peeps went in together on it. Other than that we had items ranging from $6.99 – $548.
Post # 6
We have a lot of expensive things on our registry because we plan on buying them after the wedding and want the 15% off. So when I see $$$$ on a registry it doesn’t bother me. I think as long as there is a wide range of things then it doesnt matter if someone registers for a $2500 fridge.
Post # 7
Perhaps they’re planning on using the registry completion discount after the wedding to purchase some of the bigger items?
As long as there are also smaller items, I wouldn’t be insulted.
Post # 8
I think hair and makeup is a nice gift.
We registered for a Wii and some games, which I thought was a don’t, but just said yes so my hubby would be happy. And, people bought it for us and we use it all the time.
Post # 9
I think the best advice I got about registries is this: it’s not about how expensive your items are, it’s how much variety of prices you have. So if I saw a registry comprised of only items $300 and up, I might feel offended that the couple expected me to spend that much. Same goes for if the registry was 80-90% $300+ with only a few items in the $50-range. But I’m not offended if there are a few items that are big ticket so long as there are some that are $100 and some that are $50 and some that are $15.
In this case, I don’t think that you should be offended by the items on your friend’s registry–sometimes people DO actually purchase big-ticket items and she also might be hoping that some of her friends or family members will do a joint purchase for those items.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club
I agree with CorgiTales on having the range.
I also wonder if maybe Sears has a registry completion deal like Bed, Bath and Beyond or Crate and Barrel where some brides and grooms may put higher priced items on there not expecting guests to get it, but so that they can get a discount when purchasing it themselves after the wedding.
Post # 11
I wonder if she added those items so she could get the discount later?
Post # 12
Either your friend is thinking maybe a group will go in on one of those high ticket items together, or they are waiting until the wedding is over to get a discount on those items. I don’t think this is completely rude, if that is her thought process.
Post # 13
I forgot about the percentage off after the wedding….maybe (hopefully) that is what they are doing. Their cheapest thing seems to be their their dinne wear, 4 place setting for $40.00 each. I didn’t find that offensive at all until I saw they requested TEN sets! Thats 40 plates! I’m just finding this so odd because they both come from a very, small middle class family.
Post # 14
Wouldn’t that mean they wanted 10 plates? I really don’t see how a registry could ever be rude.
Post # 15
I don’t thnk it’s rude to register for ANY number of plates, unless she’s asking you to store them at your house for her…..
Post # 16
We registered for an $1800 bed because we get a 20% discount off of items on our registry that aren’t bought for us. I know it may sound cheap, but why not take advantage of it when you can.