(Closed) the downfalls of a long engagement

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with you! When we first got engaged I knew everything I wanted and now (almost 2 years later) when I am suppose to be finalizing stuff I keep changing my mind.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

Totally agree!

I’m also less excited about it. 🙂 And other people have gotten engaged/married in that time frame, so I feel like family members might think I’m the one copying them (which is silly).

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yeah I spent like 6 weeks waffling between invitation designs. Way too much time to agonize over tiny details.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am not even two months into a 17 month engagement period and I just know that I will be changing my mind a hundred times. If I had a larger wedding to plan, that would be fine but I am having a total of 8 people at my wedding and that includes ourselves and the wedding party with no reception except dinner out at a great restaurant.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@bblove04: People always look at me like I’m nuts when I say it still feels so far away.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Our engagement will be 17 months when it is all over, and I had the hardest time keeping up my enthusiasm.  I was super excited for 5 months or so, then it just started dropping until it hit rock bottom around November. I’ve been trying to get more enthused, but at this point I’m just ready to be done.

I have found that all the hoopla around the royal wedding has helped me get a little more excited for my own, haha. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I actually like(d) it. We have a total of a 21 month long engagement and I love that I have (mostly) everything picked out and I can just enjoy being engaged.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Eek.  You girls are scaring me!  We got engaged on Black Friday of 2010 and are planning a Memorial Day wedding for 2012.  I know what you mean b/c my best friend got engaged in February and is getting married in August of this year.  I have a lot of great ideas but am hesitant to share. haha

On the plus side though…

  • I am enjoying being engaged
  • I like to call my Fiance my Frenchy
  • We have saved to date half the cash we will need for the wedding, and still have 15 months to save i.e. this wedding will not put us in debt
  • We are the last out of our siblings and one of the last(the ones left will probably never get married or get married very late) of our friends to get married so the party will be a big blowout
  • No detail will be overlooked!  I have enough spreadsheets, lists, post-it marked magazines and notes in my binder to cover everything!
  • The parties are spread out.  Instead of cramming an engagement, bridal, bachelorette party into a small window we have plenty of time for great planning for that as well
  • I always wanted a May wedding and could not imagine doing it in 6 months.  It can be done but not for me!

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

A second problem with a long engagement is all of the life changes you go through durng the planning. Since we got engaged, I finished grad school and took a job in a state that is different from where we both lived (and not where our wedding is). We couldn’t even book our honeymoon until February because we didn’t know where I would be working!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know exactly what you mean! I wrote a post recently about how long people’s engagement are and most people stated the same thing and can’t waiting to get married.  I’m glad my engagement is short, 8 months!  I picked out my dress last month, but all the bridal magazines showcase dresses and not the other stuff…now all this extra time is making me second doubt my dress.  And Weddingbee doesn’t help either!  So many great DIY projects out there that I want to do. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

LOL.  I feel like we are all hopeless romantics so Will and Kate just makes me misty.  I love all her hats and headpieces.  So wish I could pull that off!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Agreed! I just want the day to get here. I was not meant for a long engagement, bad choice on my part. I was just talking to someone about this. She responded with “Enjoy your engagement, you have your whole life to be married” I wanted to tell her to suck it but I restrained myself.

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