(Closed) the dreaded Adult Only RSVP

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think the first line sounds good, but for the second line, I’d probably just put…

__ # attending

I think it sounds less redundant that way.  However, maybe if you reiterate the number of reserved seats, people will actually listen!  Proabbly not though 🙂

Post # 5
6350 posts
Bee Keeper

A lot of bees do the  blank of blank attending. I think it points out better that only the adults are invited.

Post # 6
14492 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with @SoontobeMrsA:  It may sound alittle redundant, but it makes the point better that you only get two spots and the kids will not be joining you.  I have seen that on some state dinner invites lately also.

Post # 7
1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree if you just but # attending I feel like they are more likely to put down 3,4, or 5 than just the 2 allowed.

Post # 8
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Maybe ____ of 2 will be attending ?

Post # 9
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

We did

2 seats have been reserved in your honor

____ of 2 adult guest(s) will be attending

We also had “We look forward to spending this adult only affair with you”

and to be completely honest I still had to make a call about someone who put “2” in the blank but then wrote in their daughter’s name. =(

I think really you just cover your bases and be ready to make a phone call if necessary.

We’re also having childcare ready/available for the ceremony/reception just incase some STILL don’t get it

Post # 10
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You should probably specify directly no children, or be prepared for write-ins and phone calls.

Post # 11
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think most people get what an “adult reception” is if you use that language.

My problem has been with people filling in their “quota” with friends, etc. that are not their spouse/SO.  If you tell them that they have a certain number of seats, they might get filled with names not on the invites.

Post # 12
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@clemster: you put it much gentler than i did! i wrote Adults Only Ceremony and Reception on the enclosure card! with our limited budget- i couldnt take chances! i think that the way you have it now is very straight forward and leaves little room for error! someone will really have to go above and beyond to mess it up!

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