Post # 1
Fiance has a group of friends that includes him and two other people, one of which is Future Sister-In-Law. He and I happen to be friends with one of these friends and his wife. They are definitely ‘our’ friends as opposed to just FI’s. While I’ve been to these friends house several times and seeing them about 5-6 times a year, I’ve never spoken more than 2 words to the other friend in the group.
We’re trying to keep our guest list really small (like 30-35 people), so I was hoping to just invite the couple friends (and Future Sister-In-Law obviously) and not the other person who’s really only FI’s friend.
Can we do this? I don’t want to make things awkward for Fiance the next time he seems this group (which is only every 6 months or so), but he really does have a different relationship with the two friends.
Post # 3
Bump when more people are likely awake 🙂
Post # 4
would be this one friend on his/her own or friend + SO, possibly + kids?
if it’s the friend alone then I’d invite him/her to keep the peace. I think it would be kind of awkward since tht friend would be the only one out of a group of friends not to be invited.
Post # 5
What is the harm in inviting one or two more people to ‘keep the peace’ in the group? How would you feel if the tables were turned? Would you be okay not being invited or would you feel left out and excluded? Also how close is he to your FI? If they hang out quite frequently it might be awkward and put you in a bad light when your Fiance has to tell his friend that he isn’t invited because they need to keep it small and he is not friends with both of you.
Post # 6
I would invite them. It’s not worth trying to break up an established group.
Its ok to have guests that are friends with just your Fiance or just you… You just haven’t had a chance to get to know this person yet.
Post # 7
It would be her and her husband, so not a whole lot of extra people.
I guess I’m just disappointed because everyone else who will be there is either close family or ‘our’ friend. With only 30-35 people there, this was really supposed to be ‘nearest and dearest’ and I don’t think someone that Fiance see once or twice a year qualifies.
Oh well…I realize that that Fiance is between a rock and a hard place on this one.
Post # 8
If she’s your fiance’s close friend, she should be there. I don’t know my fiance’s friends from college at all, but that doesn’t preclude their being invited!