(Closed) The dreaded guest list…

posted 10 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Everyone who gets an annoucement should receive an invitation. Save the dates or annoucements should be sent several months in advance. My Fiance and I are getting married 3 hours away from where our families and friends live, so we are sending out the save the dates very soon. We are inviting family that lives across the country, even though we know they will probably not be able to attend, only because we want them to know that we were thinking of them. We are inviting them without any intention of them coming or receiving a gift from them. I would just hate to offend them by leaving them out. As far as coworkers, it is whatever you feel comfortable with. How close are you with them? If you’ve been there for a while and hang out with them outside of work often then I believe it would be proper to invite them. I guess all of this ultimately depends on how big of a wedding you guys want and can afford. Guest lists can get out of control very quickly! We did ask my mother in law for a list of people that she would like to attend, as well. Sorry for the long response!

Post # 4
5887 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

there are two different ways you can go about this.  i think the first might work better for you.

1. set a budget and then decide how many people you can afford to have.  allocate a certain number of invites to both sets of parents

2. compile a guest list of all your MUST HAVE people, and have your parents do the same.  this is a little trickier because they can obviously come back to you with a guest list of 100 each.

since you are having a destination wedding for many of the guests, save the dates might be a nice gesture.  these go out 6-12 months before the wedding date.  i’m not a fan of announcements, and i’m still not really convinced of their purpose.  i think some people send them to people they didn’t invite to the wedding- but this seems a bit gift grabby to me. 

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