Post # 1
I am sending my Thank You cards out today, my wedding was the end of October.
Well I handed my office manager hers (asked for her address and she said just give it to her) and her reply was, “Jeez how long was that ago? How many months?”
I feel like shit. It’s only been four months. Is anyone else sending them this late?
Post # 3
@figgnewton: Well geez that was rude! I’m not married yet so I can’t tell you what I’ve done but I usually send thank you cards out ASAP. You do have a certain window though (I’m not sure what it is, I’m SURE another bee will let you know) and 2 of my cousins took about 3 months to get the cards out because they had professional pictures to wait on. I didn’t mind that.
If you didn’t have pictures I would probably wonder what took so long but I definitely wouldn’t say it out loud! Also if you had other things going on…moving in together after the wedding, a long honeymoon, etc….then I would understand as well.
Post # 4
Well, she was rude for making a comment, but I personally believe that four months is too long. I think thank you cards should be prompt and personalized, and that four months is really pushing that. (The rule is guests have a year to send a gifts, not that the couple has a year to get out thank you cards).
Regardless, it was tactless for the recipient to respond like that.
Post # 5
It was rude of her to comment, but the couple is encouraged to get notes out ASAP – after the grace period of the honeymoon, of course.
Post # 6
I’m JUST sending mine out now and I got married in June. Darling Husband and I moved to a different country after the wedding, and not getting our photos back until January also delayed them. If someone has a problem with that, then don’t accept our “thank you” is really all I can say :S
I think you are spot on timewise in terms of sending them out! I’ve been to weddings and didn’t receive one at all!
Post # 7
It was rather tasteless of her to respond like that. She should’ve just said “thanks” and kept the comments to herself. That said, 4 months is a rather long time to get Thank You cards out. We got ours out in 2 months (and even by then, Darling Husband was antsy). To your credit, a lot of people don’t send them out at all.
Post # 8
@lilbluebird: My family (I have only been to one wedding without parents) I don’t think ever received a thank you card. They told me that but told me to put some fire under my ass and send them out.
Post # 9
Um, I got married in July and haven’t done them yet. I have reasons, but too many to type while I’m on my phone.
Post # 10
It was rude of her to call you out on the lateness, but you are sending them out late.
Post # 11
Her comment was rude but IMO 4 months is way too long to be sending out thank yous.
Post # 12
Her comment was rude, you waited way too long to get them out. Both of you made mistakes, consider it a wash and let it go.
I don’t really get “dreading” thank you notes? I am excited to write ours (and have been writing them as gifts have been received). It gives me a warm fuzzy to make sure my guests know how grateful we are…
Post # 13
Her comment was really rude. I think 4 months is on the boundary of getting too long so I won’t say that it’s too long.
Post # 14
@NAvery: I completely dread them too. I don’t understand why I can’t just thank them in person or make a call. Oh well.