(Closed) The dreaded topic…

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: Which would you prefer as a guest?
    Paying $2 per drink : (40 votes)
    69 %
    Having jar available to give money if you wish : (18 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    @PuntaCanaBride: So my question is as a guest would you prefer having to pay 2 dollars a drink or having drinks free with this jar in the front?

    I’m sorry I’m having a stupid moment but can you rephrase the bold part? It dosen’t make much sense.

    Post # 4
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    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    hm, i don’t like the jar idea.  i’d much prefer the toonie bar. 

    if there’s a jar there, i think it should be to tip the bartender, not to make a donation for the drinks. 

    Post # 5
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think the jar would make me feel uncomfortable–like the bride and groom are asking to be paid back for the wedding. I would rather pay for my drink.

     

    Post # 6
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    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @PuntaCanaBride:  I would probably rather just pay the $2.  I’ve never been to a wedding that WASN’T open bar so the concept is a little foreign to me, but I think just having people pay directly for the drinks is better.  The jars for the couple would probably leave a bad taste in my mouth.  And honestly, unless I looked closely… I would probably assume that the jars were for tips for the bartender.. so I would think there would be a lot of confusion.

    Post # 7
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    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    A tip jar for the bride and groom at the wedding that they are hosting is extremely inappropriate in my mind. I would prefer to pay $2 for a drink!

    Post # 8
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    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    wow, $2 per drink at a cash bar sounds pretty cheap to me. but i’m thinking for sure you won’t recoup the cost if you just have a jar. if it were me, and i saw a jar specifying money was going to the bride/groom, i would feel a little more weird about that vs. paying $2 for a drink.

    Post # 9
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    72 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Oh! Ok, I get it. I wouldn’t mind putting a toonie or more in the jar. Just label it really really well because as PP said, it might look like a tip jar for the bartender.

    Post # 10
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    608 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Hmm, I’m not sure.  I think it might depend on how you word the jar.  I think if you word as you said as contributions towards liquor with some sorth of explaination that might work.  I would make sure to figure out if/how the bar staff are taking tips because if they have a tip jar and you have a contributions jar it might be a bit confusing.  The jar would allow those that didn’t bring cash the ability to still get a drink.      However, $2 a drink is pretty cheap. 

    Post # 11
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would rather just pay the 2 bucks for the drink. 

    Post # 12
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would rather pay for my drink than have a jar asking for contributions

    Post # 13
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    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    A donation to the bride and groom to help pay for the wedding sounds terrible to me so I voted for the cash bar.

    Post # 14
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    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    Cash bar All The Way!!

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    My gift is a donation to the bride and groom.  The jar just seems icky to me, only replace the ‘i’ with an ‘a’ and add a ‘t’ at the front.

    ETA: I don’t mind a cash bar.  They’re common in my neck of the woods, but generally the bride and groom provide a free keg.  Is that an option?

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    At first I thought the jar would be okay – but then I thought about it, and yes, it would seem like it was a tip jar, or that you were trying to be paid back.  So I’m going to go with a $2 bar – still super cheap for drinks!!!

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