Post # 1
I hate to open this can of worms as I DO NOT want to start board drama. But I have a question.
In my area it is completely normal to have a cash bar. In fact I have been to around 15 weddings and have only once ever seen an open bar. People typically charge one or two dollars per drink not full prices.
Recently at a wedding they had an “open bar” but they had jars that said for the happy couple. IE you could choose to contribute some money to the jars to pay for drinks or not. I thought I liked this idea because that way people don’t have to pay for their drinks but they could contribute if they want to. However, I’m concerned that this option looks more like a cash grab than just charging for drinks.
So my question is as a guest would you prefer having to pay 2 dollars a drink or drinks are free but there is a jar available for contributions.
NOTE: Please DO NOT reply with telling me cash bars are tacky, that its not right to expect people to pay for drinks at a wedding, etc. I have heard all the arguments on the cash bar topic before. I am only asking for an answer to my question.
Post # 3
@PuntaCanaBride: So my question is as a guest would you prefer having to pay 2 dollars a drink or having drinks free with this jar in the front?
I’m sorry I’m having a stupid moment but can you rephrase the bold part? It dosen’t make much sense.
Post # 4
hm, i don’t like the jar idea. i’d much prefer the toonie bar.
if there’s a jar there, i think it should be to tip the bartender, not to make a donation for the drinks.
Post # 5
I think the jar would make me feel uncomfortable–like the bride and groom are asking to be paid back for the wedding. I would rather pay for my drink.
Post # 6
@PuntaCanaBride: I would probably rather just pay the $2. I’ve never been to a wedding that WASN’T open bar so the concept is a little foreign to me, but I think just having people pay directly for the drinks is better. The jars for the couple would probably leave a bad taste in my mouth. And honestly, unless I looked closely… I would probably assume that the jars were for tips for the bartender.. so I would think there would be a lot of confusion.
Post # 7
A tip jar for the bride and groom at the wedding that they are hosting is extremely inappropriate in my mind. I would prefer to pay $2 for a drink!
Post # 8
wow, $2 per drink at a cash bar sounds pretty cheap to me. but i’m thinking for sure you won’t recoup the cost if you just have a jar. if it were me, and i saw a jar specifying money was going to the bride/groom, i would feel a little more weird about that vs. paying $2 for a drink.
Post # 9
Oh! Ok, I get it. I wouldn’t mind putting a toonie or more in the jar. Just label it really really well because as PP said, it might look like a tip jar for the bartender.
Post # 10
Hmm, I’m not sure. I think it might depend on how you word the jar. I think if you word as you said as contributions towards liquor with some sorth of explaination that might work. I would make sure to figure out if/how the bar staff are taking tips because if they have a tip jar and you have a contributions jar it might be a bit confusing. The jar would allow those that didn’t bring cash the ability to still get a drink. However, $2 a drink is pretty cheap.
Post # 11
I would rather just pay the 2 bucks for the drink.
Post # 12
I would rather pay for my drink than have a jar asking for contributions
Post # 13
A donation to the bride and groom to help pay for the wedding sounds terrible to me so I voted for the cash bar.
Post # 15
My gift is a donation to the bride and groom. The jar just seems icky to me, only replace the ‘i’ with an ‘a’ and add a ‘t’ at the front.
ETA: I don’t mind a cash bar. They’re common in my neck of the woods, but generally the bride and groom provide a free keg. Is that an option?
Post # 16
At first I thought the jar would be okay – but then I thought about it, and yes, it would seem like it was a tip jar, or that you were trying to be paid back. So I’m going to go with a $2 bar – still super cheap for drinks!!!