(Closed) The Dress and The Fiance

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think you should buy the dress. It obviously makes you feel confident and beautiful, and THAT’S what your fiance will notice. Who cares if he likes the dress on the hanger, it’s YOU he loves!

Post # 4
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

It’s YOUR Dress, not his. You should pick something you like.

Post # 5
38 posts
  • Wedding: July 2007

It is definately not a man free zone – though be forewarned that you will get looks for being "weird."  I bought my dress in another city and the two people who saw me in it at the store were my fiance and my ffil.  I would have loved for my fmil to look, but she staunchly refused – but nobody else cared!  I totally understand you wanting him to approve and if you don’t care if he sees you before, why not take him shopping?

Post # 6
2765 posts
Sugar bee

I went with Mrs. Bee to Kleinfeld, and it was totally fine!  I was probably the only guy there, but I didn’t get any weird looks…

Post # 7
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Did you ask him what he doesn’t like about it? Perhaps he doesn’t think it is quite as flattering on you as other styles could be, but thinks he would hurt your feelings by coming straight out and telling you.

If you ask men what they like in women’s fashion, most of the time they will say they prefer styles that are simpler and un-fussy, so that one notices the sex appeal of the woman, and not just what she’s wearing. That is most decidedly a highly stylized, high-fashion dress, and many men just don’t "get" that type of thing.

At the end of the day the dress doesn’t really matter – he’s marrying you, not a bolt of fabric. Wear what you love the most, but in this case, realize that he may love it when he sees you in it, or he may hate it. He has already made his opinion pretty clear.

I made the choice to not shop with my fiance or allow him to see the dress. To me dress shopping and preparation  are sort of a special women’s wedding ritual, and I want him to be surprised when he sees the "final bridal product" on our wedding day! Plus, this way I don’t have to hear his opinion on what he may or may not like  

Post # 8
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2007

my Darling Husband came with me to go dress shopping – both times (I was a two-dress bride, eeek). the way his face lit up when he saw "the dress" was worth it, and didn’t detract at all from his expectations on the wedding day.

Post # 9
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I wanted to show him the dress, but it was him that refused.  He said he wanted to be surprised.  I am glad it worked out that way, especially when the saw the look on his face when he first saw me in it.  Thankfully, we caught that moment on film.

Post # 10
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I showed my fiance pictures, too.  He also didn’t like the dress I did.  And if I could have gotten him to go to the dress store, I would have.  I too thought that if he saw me in it, he would approve —  but he hates shopping, so it was a no go.  I think it’s totally understandable to want him to like your dress, and that seeing you in it  before the wedding day may help you make your choice.  If you can drag him off to the store, go for it! 

Post # 11
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

you don’t want to show him the dress…..I think it will totally ruin the moment when you see each other for the first time!  If you love it, get it.  If you think it looks good on you, then it probably does!  Its a gorgeous unique dress by the way!  I think guys tend to think of more traditional gowns when they picture it, and thats probably the issue.  But, I don’t think I have ever heard of a guy not thinking his new wife looks gorgeous in her wedding gown.  Honestly, i think you would be your toughest critic, and if you love it, so will everyone else!

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