Post # 1
I have lots of time to plan for my future wedding but I cannot find a dress I like anywhere!!! The modern styles do not appeal to me (I am a 40 something, size 8-10, making a second trip down the aisle) and since we are planning a beach wedding/reception in the month of September in a few years, strapless is out for me (plus I don’t need my cleavage or back pudge falling out of my dress).
I was a bride for the first time in the late eighties and got divorced last year – the ex’s love of alcohol was greater than his love for me and babysitting a 40 something man was getting old. Never thought a year from that awful experience I would have met a sweetheart of a guy who wants to spend the rest of his life with me – and he’s shopping for the ring and planning the official proposal but laughs with me as we don’t do things in order!
We are planning a bowhunting honeymoon… which shows that my fiance and I love the outdoors and something different from the norm.
My gown back then was made of white slipper satin with lace, Schiffli embroidery, tiny seed pearls and little sparkles. It had a cathedral train that was beautiful when it was bustled but it was definitely a first wedding dress.
Now we have the Internet to look at ideas, which is helpful but I really dislike today’s designs – for me. I like pearls and sparklies that are not overdone, a small train, off the shoulder with a real off the shoulder sleeve, not an excuse for a place to put extra fabric to hold things together and I have yet to find anything like my dream gown.
Would love to hear everyone’s experiences on finding the right dress. I am discouraged.
Post # 3
@Extraordinarylife: You’ve got enough time to get a bespoke dress made so I’d jot down your general ideas and share them with a seamstress.
I would also say that fashions change rapidly so that when you get nearer to your date you might find rather more choice that suits you.
Post # 4
I loved my dress! It was an ultra-ornate ballgown. I just tried on dress after dress until this one stopped me in my tracks! I originally wanted a simple, tea-length wedding dress, so go shopping, try on some dresses, and you might really surprise yourself!
Post # 5
What a beautiful dress! I love the work around the hem!
Post # 6
Thanks for the great suggestions… I am drawing up some ideas inbetween typing and will have to then research seamstresses. The bad thing is I just got out of the hospital after five days in and had time to kill but did not expect not to find anything.
Post # 8
I tried on a lot of dresses; many were to get an idea of what I liked and didn’t like. I then had an idea of a style dress I wanted to try. Well, I basically found it and it was 80% off. I wasn’t completley sold that the style/dress was “the one”, but I couldn’t not buy it for that price. Looking back, did I like the dress – yes Did I love it – probably not. Do I regret it – no.
Besides the normal wedding dress locations, also take a look at Ann Taylor, Macy’s, Nordstrom’s, BHLDN, J Crew, etc. Also, there’s website to buy pre-owned dresses (if you are ok with that) and consider a white bridemaids dress. A bridemaides dress may not have the train, but there might be more off-the-shoulder choices.
Post # 9
I pictured a dress in my head and could not find anything like it online, then ononline just browsing David’s website I saw a Melissa Sweet gown that was only 70 percent of what I thought I wanted and knew it was my dress. I never cried and my mom doesn’t even love it, but when I put it on even before I saw it on, I just felt a big weight off m shoulders and like a big stress was suddenly gone.
Keep looking and you will find something you love eventually. A lot of things in person look totally different then online, and everything looks different on a real person than on a model, better in my opinion. As you get farther along in the process your opinions may change a bit too, and trying things on may shed some light. Good luck and most importantly have fun, and don’t let not finding it right away get you down!
Post # 10
The one on top is mine. If I was yor age and it was my second time around I would wear something fitted
to the body and not a white dress but not any less fab
Post # 11
i wanted a simple and elegant dress. i thought i wanted one style and ended up with another.
i suggest trying on every style until you find one that suits you.
Post # 12
Found the corset on corset-story.com
Found the skirt on etsy
Found the blue (reception) dress on victorianchoice.com
It came to me in pieces via my bff internet. 😀 So happy and what a bargain!!!
Post # 13
@bbfyso: Love that dress!
Post # 14
@Extraordinarylife: I think you should concentrate on trying on a dress that makes you feel beautiful and like a bride. In terms of sleeveless, plunging backs, etc, you can just add a bolero:
Post # 15
The good thing about today is that variety is really starting to be the norm. And I mean this as being super recent. When I was dress shopping in 2011 everything was strapless, sweetheart, ruching, pickups, bling. It was almost the same thing over and over, which is why I went to 13 stores. I purchased a fitted dress and I would again (tho I didnt think thats what I wanted). Now you’ll have more options and you’ll never know what you fall in love with.