(Closed) the dress: i just can't!

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Post # 17
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have PCOS too and it is hard. are you taking in meds ( metformin and birth control ). Those to thing help me drastically! 

Post # 18
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

First of all…I am really sorry you feel this way about yourself and the whole situation…

Second, your wedding is in May next year…which means that you have 8 months to go…Maybe, you should try to go on a diet and work out a little starting tomorrow,  do it for a month and then order the dress.. of course you wouldn’t loose all the weight and maybe, you still wouldn’t feel perfectly great about yourself…BUT you will see the improvement, and it will make you more confident..

Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Just go. Try and have an open mind, get some support around you, and go!

I’m a big girl, an AU 22, and I had 3 months to plan my wedding. I took my mum and Maid/Matron of Honor and just went for it. I was petrified about trying anything on and was worried I wouldn’t find anything. I lied and told the consultants that my wedding was in March, when it’s in November. I planned to try on styles, and get a dress made in China.

I was so petrified that I couldn’t even pick dresses I wanted to try on. I just froze, and told the others to go nuts and start handing me stuff. My mum grabbed a dress, it was the 4th one I tried on, and as soon as I was laced into it, I just knew. The sample was a 22, it fits perfectly – no alterations – and I was able to buy it on the spot and take it with me. Done! Huge weight lifted (no pun intended!).

I’m sure the consultants see every shape and size, and aren’t judging your body… you’re just a mannequin and a hopeful sale. My advice is to be open minded about dress styles… I planned on having lace, straps and a-line, and I ended up with a strapless tulle ballgown.

Post # 22
149 posts
Blushing bee

If you’re worried about being practically naked in front of the sales girls, buy a slip-type underdress thing that you can have on over your underwear the whole time and try dresses on over the top of that, you know like those cotton or satin nighty-type ones – that’s what I have been doing! Something with spaghetti straps and goes to about mid thigh, and they won’t see a thing you aren’t comfortable with them seeing ๐Ÿ™‚ you can always flick the straps out of the way once you have a dress on if need be!


Post # 23
4891 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JL4SM:  I am a size 18/20 australian street size and I was dreading shopping for a dress…. I expected not to have a choice…turns out I tried on heaps of dresses and I had several options that I actually liked (and I’m really picky about fit)


I’d go to that place and try out other places as well that stock plus size samples.


If you find another dress at another store the place that you won the $2000 gift voucher may be able to order in your size.


Another tip is to listen to the sales ladies….they are usually really good at picking flattering dresses for your shape.


Also because of all the structure in wedding dresses you will find that they are more flattering than a cocktail dress.


I tried on pronovias, maggie sottero, brides by mancini, essense of australia and my dress is a veromia sonsie.


I found those brands had excellent support for plus size…morie lee dresses for some reason didn’t suit me at all.


My wedding dress came in at $2300


your budget should be fine!


As for people being perfect…no such thing i’m a nurse and I see plenty of people in the buff….even slim people have wonky boobs and stretchmarks! I always take the veiw that for ever  1000 people that have a better body than I have, another 1000 people will look worse naked than I do!Tongue Out


The ladies at the bridal shop are like nurses… they see lots of bodies and they don’t even notice your perceieved flaws….they just want the commision from selling you a dress!


Have fun….you only get to do this once…enjoy it and keep us posted!!!




also my sister struggled with pcos…since starting the paleo diet she has seen a huge improvement with her pcos symptoms….weightloss, facial hair falling out etc…


Post # 24
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@JL4SM:  Hi!


Don’t worry, it will be okay! I am a plus-size bride (Size 12/14) and I bought my dress from a very expensive, high-end store. All the dresses were 4K and up. I bought a sample dress, so I was not even in the ballpark of their “normal” customers.

My consultant was amazing! She helped me into many dresses that were too small, suggested alterations that would make them fit, and acted like it was no big deal when I was half-naked in there!

For what it’s worth, I wore capri-length cotton legggings and a sweater, with a strapless bra. That way I just took off the sweater and I was still very covered. I kept the leggings on under all my dresses, and no one saw me in my panties! 

You will find something beautiful. Casablanca and Allure dresses are beautiful! You are so lucky to get a free dress!

Post # 25
3201 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@JL4SM:  I felt just like you did before I went to try on dresses. I’m plus size, I’ll never find anything that fits, I’ll be ugly, it won’t look right on me, I won’t be able to try anything on, I’ll have to show these people my body… but I made my appointment and I went. Sure, there were some dresses I couldn’t try on, but I tried on 7 different dress and found a dress that I loved. It helps if you take a really good friend with you for some extra positive energy. I also purchased a strapless body shaper so I wouldn’t so so exposed while I was trying things on.

I’m a street size 14/16 and my dress is a 20. 

Post # 27
6580 posts
Bee Keeper

I was that way too. I’m plus size (18) and thought every dress would make me look huge. But once I saw my dress, I was shaking. When I put it on I started getting teary eyed. I just felt beautiful!

Post # 28
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@JL4SM:  I have some similar body image issues to you and I have to say, despite my worry, I had a blast trying on dresses. First, you can ask to put most of the dress on yourself (so that you’re never in your bra and panties in front of them) and second, trust me, most of the girls have seen plenty of bodies just like yours before, and they won’t say or think anything. I mean, it’s their JOB to make you feel good and confident and happy in the store’s dresses.

Plus, you never know what interesting characters you might meet – my consultant at one store was training to be an EMT and working there for money! My body was definitely nowhere near the first or last she’d ever seen (and definitely not the worst thing she’s ever seen, since she was also training to do OR work), and she made me feel absolutely gorgeous and sexy when I was trying on dresses.

I say get some friends or family members that love you and make you feel beautiful and go dress shopping with them when you can make a fun day of it.

Post # 29
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Honey, even skinny girls have body issues. I had a baby and nothing will ever be where I left it before I started. With that, I have cone to terms that it is mine and I’m going to enjoy it! I love my weird body and anyone that doesn’t, can shove it! Enjoy finding your dress, knowing that its paid for, and know those girls probably aren’t thrilled with their bodies either. 

Post # 30
1616 posts
Bumble bee

@JL4SM:  I felt the exact same way until I finally bit the bullet and went to an appointment I made the day before yesterday. I found an AMAZING Casablanca. (actually 3 of them) and they made me look fantastic. By The Way I am a size 24!

Post # 31
1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@JL4SM:  This is a Brides by Mancini dress that i was considering. al the dresses i considered (I think) make me look smaller around the waist than what i am (Im not complaining)

Brides Desire:


Jean Fox

Nicolina (They def stock but isnt on the website)


Nicolina as well

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