(Closed) the dress: i just can't!

posted 8 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 32
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I didn’t find Spurlings that expensive – the one I went to carried Henri Roth dresses as well and I almost bought one from there that came in at $1100 (which for Australia is cheap!) My budget was nothing over 2k and they found heaps for me to try on in that range, nothing I liked was out of budget. The one I ended up buying at another store was originally $1900 but I got it for $1700 with a trunk show discount.

I am admittedly not plus size (anymore) but there were lots of girls there trying on dresses that were plus size and the consultants were finding plenty of lovely gowns for them to try ๐Ÿ™‚

Good luck and congrats on winning a free dress!

Post # 35
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@JL4SM:  Aww, I’m so sorry you have so much fear about this. I could relate though. I went to one bride salon appointment, hated it, then took to ebay to find something.

I ended up getting on accutane for my acne (my skin is almost perfect now), & went on a diet & lost 20lbs. Plus, found a dress that flattered my figure & got it altered to hug my curves.

Try not to worry! I got my drss 4 months before the wedding & it wasn’t done being altered until 20 days before the wedding!

Post # 36
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Pokemon:  Wow! That last dress is divine! But, they all are ๐Ÿ™‚ Which did you pick?

Post # 37
1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@JL4SM:  Its a nicolina, They dont have names just a series of numbers, sorry i dont remember but check out there site. Though like most bridal sites its all size 10 brides so just keep an open mind. and thank you i fell in love


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@MrsSkeletonKey:  The last dress is the one I picked lol thanks so much

Post # 38
4078 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I got my dress from Spurlings in Adelaide too..


As I said, initially I was a size 18, and had NO  issues with trying on dresses.

Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 39
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Pokemon:  Oh, awesome! It’s by far my favorite of the ones pictures & makes you look like the perfect coke bottle shape ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 40
10 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

@JL4SM:  Hi, I don’t really pot much on here but you sounded so like me that I wanted to try and help, I felt very much like you before shopping. I am overweight, a uk 18 top, 22 bottom, and pretty tall, and have often felt like a big lump in clothes shops. I even cried to my fiance that I would not be able to bet a dress ever.

There are two shops in my home town, one I really wanted to go to, one I wasnt so fussy for. I went to the one I wasnt so fussy for first, and loved it, everything fit (some were too big!) the girl was so thoughtful, she gave me privacy to change. I was in my bra and pants with an underskirt she gave me so felt quite dressed. She didnt mention the size of the dresses once, apart from to nicely say some samples were very small and would not look right but “id get the idea”.

I then went to my next appointment at the shop I really liked…and left furious. Nothing fit. at all. She stayed in the changing room while I stripped too. But I wasnt upset or felt like I was too big, I was angry…why shouldnt they fit? Im not that bigger than the average in the UK, surely having bigger dresses that can be pulled in is better? My Mum said if we’d gone there first Id have been upset and gone nowhere else, but because Id had a good experience I was angry.

I went to a further 3 shops where everything fit. Not one lady ever mentioned the size of the sample, I only know the size of my own dress as my Mum asked, I dont care what size it is really, its how it makes me feel.The ladies in the shops were all good at picking out what would suit me, and steered me away from some they knew were “too straight” for my shape.

My advice to you would be, like the other girls have said, please just go for it. Take a good friend or family member for support, and if you can tell them how you feel. And if nothing fits or looks good, dont be upset, get mad, then go somewhere else…they should accept not all brides are thin, but all brides want to feel special in their dress and enjoy the experience of finding it.

Post # 41
308 posts
Helper bee

I feel you JL4SM. I had a lot of the same concerns. I wrote about my experience (which was so much better than I feared!) here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/my-experience-dress-shopping-was-great-curvy-with-large-bust#axzz2fj67S1YY

Maybe it’ll help you.

Although, I get that you don’t have a choice in terms of finding a salon. If there really is nothing in that store that suits you, buy your dress somewhere else and use the prize store for your veil/accessories/BM dresses.

The best advise I can give you is this – the consultants see women of all shapes and sizes every day. To be brutally honest with you – you represent a commission to them. She’ll work to make you feel great so that you buy a dress.

And who cares what a consultant thinks – your Fiance thinks you are beautiful! And you’re shopping for him and for yourself. Go, try on beautiful dresses and imagine how your FI’s jaw will drop when he sees you radiating joy on your wedding day.

Post # 42
4044 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@JL4SM:  I bought a Casablanca and it was $1200. And I am a size 12-14. The place I went had some that I couldn’t fit into, but most I could, and the saleswoman just pinned the back to my bra. 

Post # 43
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

you got some great advice. I’ll add my two cents — suck it up buttercup you WILL be ok. I would, however, recommend a couple things to make yourself feel better. 

1st – they work in a service industry – call. Ask. If they don’t have samples in your size (bet they will) ask them to obtain.. if they can or cant.. make an appointment for the slowest time and gather your closest person(s) and doll up and put on some yoga pants and your best bra (if you can strapless) so you dont have to fully undress and go.

We build up rejection and painful situations so much in our heads that we scare our selves out of good experiences.  

I started my find by agreeing to try on at a local high end shop who had radio adverts that they carried up to size 32 (us).. well, they had exactly 4 fluffy girl dresses and they were all the same basic shape. I knew in my HEAD i wanted a natural waist ball gown.. instead they had slinky hollywood glam dresses and I was SO frustrated at my lumps and bumps even in the dresses that were too big (i’m about a 24)  so to prove a point on a random Tuesday I dragged my mom to David’s bridal and showed her that the shape of gown i wanted was better than the experience we’d just had. I *know* your experience will be better than mine (and frankly, my david’s trip was much better than i expected).

long story short – it never hurts to ask, gird your loins, and take that first step. Don’t let it scare you. and this board (and the bee) are here for you and your exciting pics you’ll post! (and now i am going drool over those pics the pp posted, I occasionally regret insisting on a custom gown with sleeves when I see y’all’s pretties)

Post # 44
1308 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@JL4SM:  No one looks as good as the models, not even the models look as good as the models (thank an airbrush for that).  You need a dress and the chances of winning another one are pretty remote.  I’d recommend going during an off-peak time, take a friend so you can laugh together.  Just give it a try.  I fear the longer your putting it off the more you’re allowing it to build in your mind.  Just breathe and give it a try.

Post # 45
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I say go and have fun. Enjoy all the attention that you’re going to get and the fact that you’re going to get to choose a dress of your choice on someone else’s tab and don’t think about anyone else that’s there. Let this be your moment girl.

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