@JL4SM: Hi, I don’t really pot much on here but you sounded so like me that I wanted to try and help, I felt very much like you before shopping. I am overweight, a uk 18 top, 22 bottom, and pretty tall, and have often felt like a big lump in clothes shops. I even cried to my fiance that I would not be able to bet a dress ever.
There are two shops in my home town, one I really wanted to go to, one I wasnt so fussy for. I went to the one I wasnt so fussy for first, and loved it, everything fit (some were too big!) the girl was so thoughtful, she gave me privacy to change. I was in my bra and pants with an underskirt she gave me so felt quite dressed. She didnt mention the size of the dresses once, apart from to nicely say some samples were very small and would not look right but “id get the idea”.
I then went to my next appointment at the shop I really liked…and left furious. Nothing fit. at all. She stayed in the changing room while I stripped too. But I wasnt upset or felt like I was too big, I was angry…why shouldnt they fit? Im not that bigger than the average in the UK, surely having bigger dresses that can be pulled in is better? My Mum said if we’d gone there first Id have been upset and gone nowhere else, but because Id had a good experience I was angry.
I went to a further 3 shops where everything fit. Not one lady ever mentioned the size of the sample, I only know the size of my own dress as my Mum asked, I dont care what size it is really, its how it makes me feel.The ladies in the shops were all good at picking out what would suit me, and steered me away from some they knew were “too straight” for my shape.
My advice to you would be, like the other girls have said, please just go for it. Take a good friend or family member for support, and if you can tell them how you feel. And if nothing fits or looks good, dont be upset, get mad, then go somewhere else…they should accept not all brides are thin, but all brides want to feel special in their dress and enjoy the experience of finding it.