Post # 1
I bought a vintage 1950s ice blue dress of etsy. I loved it…once, but now I look at it through different eyes. Its short, it was fun and well cheap. I dont have a lot of $$ for a dress. My wedding is rustic, in a barn.
When I show people, they are less than thrilled. I told my finacee it was blue, that didn’t bother him so much as it was short…although it did slightly bother him it was blue. People are saying “You’ll regret not wearing a wedding dress.”
I HATE white dresses. I cannot stand strapless and I hate most American dresses. The ones I love are from the UK, but I can’t get them over here. I’ve tried. And lets face it one should try on the dress before they buy it.
My mother wants me in a white dress, but I want a blue dress. I also have no budget and I’m just feeling like crap right now. If I buy one it has to be around 800.00 or under. Where am I going with that budget?
I’m super frustrated and upset. I dunno what to do.
Thoughts? Suggestions? I felt so confident, but now…ughhh.
Post # 2
VictorianChick: If you loved the dress you bought, wear the dress you love. This is your wedding. Stop listening to other people.
There are issues where you should pay some attention to other people’s opinions. This is not one of them.
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
Wear what you want.
Your Fiance being less than thrilled, that I can see why you’re bothered. Ask him if he likes your everyday style and if he thinks you’re pretty in whatever you wear. Ask him if he would rather you wear something that doesn’t look like “you.” Then wear the dang dress.
Stop sharing your dress with everyone, and if anyone who already knows provides unwanted opinions, tell them them exactly what you told us. You like this dress. Or ask them if they have to wear it. Or, if you want to, tell them it’s none of their dang business and to shove it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
VictorianChick: Oooh!!! A short dress will give you a fantastic opportunity to show off some SUPER cute shoes!!!
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Post # 6
$800 is not a bad budget! My dress was a few hundred under that and it’s a designer dress. I did however buy OTR which cut the price some.
I think we need to see your dress!
Post # 7
VictorianChick: If people are objecting because it’s not white and you don’t want a white dress, then ignore them. As you doubtlessly know, the “traditional” white wedding gown doesn’t have that long of a history and there are many bridal costumes that have a claim to being traditional in their own right!
I imagine that being badgered into wearing a white dress that you don’t want is more likely to lead to regrets than wearing a dress you like, even if some people don’t think it’s “bridal.”
Post # 8
julies1949: I did love it, but now I have so much doubt I dunno what to do.
MrsYellowDaffodil: hmm. thats a good idea. I will ask him that. We are both old school, vintage people so I thought he’d like my original idea. Now I have doubts, but I will ask him. Thanks! As for the shoes, I may need help with that LOL. If I wear the dress. I thought I found some nice ones, but I’m so shaken I dunnol
MarriedToMyWork: They are objecting to the color and the length. So pretty much everythign about the dress.
slomotion: That makes me feel a little better. Now, if I can find something in blue. 🙂
MrsTVLover: There was a dress I loved from there, but clearly so did everyone else and I never got a chance to buy it. I think it was a year or two ago. I don’t remember what it was called.
Thanks everyone for the advice. Its hard to shake it off, I suppose. And its been bothering me all weekend long. I keep thinking that I am making the wrong choice and I can’t get rid of it. I’ve never been someone who follows others, but I just feel that my wedding pics are gonna look stupid and not like wedding pics. If that makes any sense.
Post # 9
VictorianChick: Stick to your guns! Show them all that an ice blue tea length gown can be the way to go! It souunds beautiful to me ( but then I like that tea length style). I bet on the day you will get lots of compliments along the lines of “it’s so different…it’s so YOU!
If you capitualte to someone else’s bridal vision then I think you risk real dress regret. And you need to feel comfortable on the day. Bet Fiance on the day will think you’re beautiful in any colour and any length dress.
Post # 10
VictorianChick: Wear what you love best! That’s the best advice I can give you. Who cares what anyone else thinks? It’s YOUR day.
One of my friends picked the dress that everyone else who went dress shopping with herwasn’t the most excited about. I’m so glad that she did, because it makes her so happy and I know she’ll be the happiest bride in it on her wedding day! That’s all that matters. 🙂
I know why you’re bothered if your Fiance is doubtful about it–I would be too. That’s really hard becausehe might have a different image of you in his mind, but you want to look like yourself so I still say you should do you!
If you are looking for a new dress, I’d suggest looking at formal or bridesmaid-type dresses. Those should come in blue. One of my other friends got married in a blue evening gown and it looked lovely.
Post # 11
Oh no! Bee, don’t let anyone’s assholey comments steer you away from your bridal vision. If it’s blue, short, tight, hey, it’s YOUR dress, not your friends or your mom’s. She had her chance already, now it’s your turn. Here is the deal: if you let other people dictate their style you will forever regret wearing THEIR choice of a dress. Let them all be surprised instead. Go shopping on your own. Pick your dress (wear your already purchased dress). The only persons opinion that matters is yours. Everybody else can go scratch.
Post # 12
VictorianChick: do you have pics of the dress?
Post # 13
I think it sounds great- can we see a picture?
Post # 14
VictorianChick: Can you show us a picture of the vintage dress? We’d love to see it! And if you want us to we could make suggestions based on the style.
And could you find a photo of the BHLDN dress you loved a couple of years ago? That’d be helpful if you want us to search for other possibilities.
Post # 15
Go with what YOU want to wear. the regret will come after you did what everybody else told you to do. If you love blue and tea length, do it!!! I’m sure it will look amazing.
p.s blue is totally my favourite colour!! and i have a strong feeling i’ll end up not wearing white either since i’m so gosh darn pale i’m basically translucent….haha