(Closed) The dress I loved everyone hates…I dunno what to do

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 46
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1411 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Hi!  My view is that it’s all very well saying ‘wear what you like’ and ‘don’t worry about anyone else’ and ‘ your fiance likes your everyday style so he’ll like your more casual bridal style’.

Actually my fiance loves me in jeans and he’s more complimentary if I wear them for an evening out than if I wear a dress…. but he’d be horrified if I wore them to our wedding. His opinion does matter, espeically as it’s not nit-picking, its just a general mannish sense that he wants his girl to look bridal. And we all seek approval. Even if we think we know our own taste we doubt ourselves and turn to other women to help. Nothing wrong with that. It’s not being needy and desperate for approval; it’s just normal.

I get that you don’t want to post your original dress as you said it embarrasses you. So post some of the dresses you like from the UK. Then the american bees can help you find similar ones in yoru price range. As a UK bee, my experience is that America has a bigger and better bridal range of almost everything (I have been ordered all sorts from other countries!) so even if they don’t sell it in your town, it may be easily shippable from a bigger City or another state.

Your budget is not bad. My dress is a Maggie Sottero, a good mainstream brand and was around that price. I can’t advise much more without knowing your style.

You will find your dress! 🙂

 

 

 

Post # 47
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292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

OP, have you tried on any ivory/white/blush dresses yet? I only ask because I also thought I’d look dreadful in ivory but actually it looked lovely on. I was so very surprised. So it’s definitely worth going to a bridal shop and trying some dresses on – you may be pleasantly surprised.

I thought I was going to go 50s style too but I’m very short and found that tea length was too long – dresses of knee length looked better, but most shorter bridal dresses were tea length. I do however absolutely love tea lenghth dresses and do think they look bridal. I know a few people who wore tea length dresses – one ivory and one a deep red and both women looked like brides!

I think you can get coloured and non coloured tea length dresses which look a bit more bridal than the one you bought. I know we have a lot of choice here in the UK, it’s worth seeing if anyone will ship to the US, or if you can use them as inspiration for a local seamstress to make you one? The latter may be a good option.

Post # 50
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401 posts
Helper bee

So, before my Fiance and I decided to go to Vegas we were planning a more rustic style wedding at home, and I almost purchased a blue dress! I think an Etsy seller might be the way for you to go. They do custom measurements so you will probably only need a few tweaks by a seamstress. Here is the one I was going to purchase, she will line the bodice if you want (I am busty too, so I would def have chosen that option). It says grey in the description  looks very blue, and most sellers will send you a fabric sample if you want to be sure.

This one is definitely grey but I think it’s gorgeous, and you could always ask the seller if she could make it in a blue color for you

I would also look up Cathy Telle, online or on Etsy. I talked with her for a while too when I was looking, and she was very helpful. A lot of her dresses are pricey, but she has a few under $1000 and she will make them in different colors. They’re truly amazingly gorgeous, I very nearly bought one from her. (Again, before we chose Vegas and I decided to go with a different aesthetic.)

 

Post # 51
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1477 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Hey lady, sorry you’re having so much trouble!  I know you hate strapless, but can’t you just do a lace topper or bolero over it to mimic the look of cap sleeves?  That would open up the selection to you and you could still have the look you want.  Something like this mimics cap sleeves:

These were on Ali Express, but you could have a seamstress replicate for you locally so that you don’t have to chance it.

I really think this one fits with what you are saying you like.  It has a very 50s feel, and is quite elegant and bridal.

Good luck sweetie!

Post # 52
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Busy bee
Post # 53
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3378 posts
Sugar bee

VictorianChick:  I get it. Only the first link is strapless.

Post # 54
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3425 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I will say that I am wearing a short, custom sized Etsy dress that is very off white/champagne for only $267. And it is not strapless because I too hate those dresses. So it can be done. Perhaps you could compromise by wearing an off white dress to the wedding and your blue one to the reception.

But only if YOU want to. Personally, I believe you should wear your short blue dress and rock it. 🙂

And also, there are many sellers on Etsy who don’t have to make the dresses in white. If you find some that you like, contact them and ask about making it in blue! I know because for a long time, I’d intended to do red. 

If you only intend to wear blue, then wear the beautiful dress you already have! If you hate white don’t wear it.

Post # 55
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1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

VictorianChick:  Can you show us the dresses you liked in the UK? Maybe that will help… 🙂

Post # 56
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35 posts
Newbee

we’re in the same boat. I hate white, want blue, hate strapless/sleeveless, and nothing seems to fit what I want. You might look into having it custom made, there’s lots of shops on etsy that do that for not too much money. 

Post # 57
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1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

VictorianChick:  Have you seen the wardrobe shop? http://wardrobeshop.com/catalog/wedding#/page-2

I don’t know if it’s your bag but they have Edwardian to 30’s style dress at really good prices and they are lovely flowing light as air style in colors. They ship everywhere (not sure where they are located) and I totally loved the vibe. But, yeah, a departure to 50’s style.

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also have you considered taking a lacey top (tons of styles in Amazon and just adding a fluffy skirt (heck, you could even have one made for cheap) . Add a sash and *bam* no fuss wedding gown!

Just a thought. His a pic for the visuals:

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Post # 58
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394 posts
Helper bee

I also tracked down your blue dress, and I think that it is lovely! I see how it is not to everyone’s taste, but I honestly don’t see anything so controversial about it (for want of a better word). One thing you could think about is wearing it to the rehearsal dinner (if you are having one- I am from the UK so not that well up on US traditions, sorry!). Or keep it for another event. But I think it is lovely and could be dressed up in a really understated and elegant way. Good luck!

Post # 59
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I just want to throw this link out there. They have lovely inexpensive dresses with that retro feel. You can also check out their social media for lots of photos of real people wearing their dresses

http://www.lindybopusa.com 

I adore their site, and they have quite a few pale blue dresses. I’ve found that their cotton dresses shrink a tiny bit when washing- works perfect for me as I’m between sizes. The other fabrics seem stay true to size.

 

Post # 60
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969 posts
Busy bee

This sort of thing is exactly why I only had my mom with me while dress shopping and I didn’t let *anyone* see the dress until our wedding day.  I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.  All I can say is do what makes you happy and screw everyone else.  😛

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