Post # 1
I had fallen in love with this dress, the Arabelle gown from J.Crew:
I needed an off-the-rack dress because my wedding date is in less than two months. There’s no time to go to a real bridal boutique and order a dress that would take months and months to come in. Since I’m in Canada, far away from a J.Crew wedding boutique, I measured myself, consulted the size charts, and consulted one of their “wedding gown experts” before ordering. Well I guess I got the closest thing to the right size, Petite 2, but it fits so awkwardly! How do I make this work?!
I would like to note that despite ordering a petite size (I’m 5’3″), this dress is about six inches too long. It is LOOONG. But I suppose hemming is one of those alterations you have to expect with a wedding dress, and it’s easily done. I’m not complaining about that, but thought any short girls might like to know.
My main beef is with the bodice, which has some boning and a sort of bra built into it. The problem is twofold: it’s too big in the waist, but way too small in the bust! So the dress keeps sliding down no matter how hard I yank it up. There is simply not enough room for my boobs in there. The cups in the built in bra are soooo tiny! The result of that is the cups kind of sit on top of my boobs like useless party hats instead of supporting them. If I were to put the underwire actually under my boob, practically my whole boob would be hanging out of the dress.
Here’s a visual to illustrate how the cups fit:
I don’t know what to do! Exchanging for a size down would fix the waist, but there’d be even less room for the girls. Exchanging for a size up might fit the bust, but it might not – I’m guessing the bra in this size is somewhere around a 32A at most, and I’m a pretty full 32C. And fitting the bust would mean taking in the waist by three or four inches. But if I return this dress I don’t know where I’ll find another one on such short notice. Could a seamstress let out the bust, put in a new bra and take in the waist all at once? If it’s possible, how much do alterations like that cost? Or should I cut my losses and start looking for another dress?
Help me Bees! Any advice is hugely appreciated.
Post # 3
I don’t know how to help you, but I have to tell you your bra cup visual made me laugh out loud. Good luck!!
Post # 4
@jayce: OMG I just laughed out loud soooo much at the bra cup illustrative photo!!! HAHAHAHA.
Ah hem. I’m sorry you’re having this problem. I truly am. Unfortunately I can’t help you as I have no idea about tailoring dresses. But I wish you good luck!!
Post # 5
Everything at J crew is made for girls with a smaller bust :p
I would return it and look some more. My boyfriends sister got a gorgeous BCBG dress off the rack at the mall.
Also, a lot of department stores now have a “wedding” section on their website that has all the long white gowns in one spot.
Post # 6
Yeah, I have heard rumors of this happening with J.Crew dresses before. Supposedly, their bra cups are fitted for roughly a size B cup. Which is awesome if you wear an A or B cup, and is okish if you’re a low C, but sucks for everyone high C and up (As a 34DD/36D girl, this makes me rather cranky. I love J.Crew)
You really have a few options. You could risk shipping it back for a larger size and have it taken in, or you could see a seamstress about taking the built in cups out and replacing them with larger built in cups (assuming, of course, that the bust section can be zipped up and would fit find if not for the cups).
Other than that, your best option is to return it and keep trying. Have you looked at Jenny Yoo Bridal Alternatives? The style Margaux is almost exactly like this dress (prettier, IMO) and it is a bit more expensive, but could be very worth it.
AND: There are places you could try them on in Canada! 🙂
Frocks Modern Bridesmaids (Calgary)
1006 MacLeod Trail S.E.
T2G 2M7 Canada
866.999.8622 or 403.263.5580
Frocks Modern Bridesmaids (Vancouver)
2306 West Broadway
866.999.8622 or 604.738.8622
19 Hazelton Ave
M5R 2E1 Canada
Post # 7
@tinylittlebird: Wow, that dress is an awesome alternative! I agree, it’s much prettier. I love the buttons up the side and the way the fabric wraps in the back. But… it’s almost twice the price. 😮 *sigh*
I live in Vancouver, so maybe I could call up Frocks and see if they can work with me on the price at all. I see they do have some shorter dresses that are in my price range. Thank you so much for going to the trouble of finding the contact info for me. I really appreciate it! Fingers crossed that maybe the store has a Margaux they’d be willing to sell at a discount?
@Ambellina13: I love BCBG! But I couldn’t find anything there, not even at the flagship store downtown. I’ll keep checking though.
@noodlesploosh:@MsGolightly: Thanks for the good luck wishes!!
So yeah… I’ll take the J.Crew dress to a seamstress and see if it can be altered to fit. If not, then Plan B is call Frocks and see if I have any options in the Jenny Yoo dresses.
Thanks so much bees, especially tinylittlebird!
Post # 8
@jayce: I’m glad I was able to help!
Another suggestion, should you not be completely attached to the idea of wearing white, is to check out the Jenny Yoo bridesmaid dresses in the color “Oyster”. It’s the closest white/ivory shade they carry, and the style I showed you above is only $375 for the long style and $320 for the short version.
I hope that helps! Keep us updated on what happens 🙂
Post # 9
@tinylittlebird: OMG, I love you!!! “Oyster” looks beautiful on the website! Haha, I joked with my friends that I probably shouldn’t be wearing white anyway (we didn’t exactly save ourselves for marriage, lol!). I’ll have to see the color in person, but it looks gorgeous!
Post # 10
Typically, with wedding dresses you order for the “largest size” and alter it to fit the smaller area’s….
You can do this and a seamstress will make it fit perfectly. but it’s up to you. Odds are any dress will need alterations.
Post # 11
@KLP2010: That’s a really good point. Before I got the dress I asked for some reviews, and one of the bees mentioned that she had her J.Crew dress let out in the bust and it had a lot of seam allowance…. maybe mine will be the same? I just hope the boning in the corset doesn’t interfere with the alterations. I think I remember reading that boning can be tough to deal with.
Post # 12
@jayce: Awww. You’re welcome! These were actually dresses that I had considered looking at before I had a better idea of what I wanted in a dress. I ended up deciding that I wanted a train, but I lusted after Margaux for a long time.
So, when I saw this post, that was the very first dress I thought of.
I also had the sticker shock for the style, but for a different reason- it upsets me that their “Bridal Alternatives” are over double the price of the EXACT SAME Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, simply because it’s white chiffon instead of a color.
Silly what they think they can get away with, isn’t it?
Post # 13
Did you try Ann Taylor or White House Black Market. Their websites have bridal dresses.
Post # 14
@jayce: i would suggest ordering a size up so the girls fit (that pic/descriptions is hilarious, i laughed out loud) you can always just take it to and alterations place and have the waist brought in that is easy enough, along with the hemming. Any alterations place should be able to do that.
@tinylittlebird: This is my dream dress…i lusted over it for so long but ended up with something a little more formal. I like it, but i still think of this dress often.
Post # 15
@totheislnds: It’s gorgeous, isn’t it! If the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses weren’t so expensive I would buy one of the short versions just to have as a party dress (Bridal shower, maybe?). But, unfortunately, I don’t have $320 to drop on a dress for no good reason 🙁
Post # 16
Check out The Limited! I was on their website yesterday and they have two pretty bridal gowns – http://www.thelimited.com/category/apparel/weddings-events/wedding-dresses