- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Ok, so it took me forever to decide on a dress. I went to 7 different salons, I mean it was my 3rd visit to the dress shop I actually picked my dress from . I went in with the idea that I was sick of dress shopping and picking one that day. The dress I picked was the first one I saw, it was brand new from the 2011 line and it was everything I wanted. But it was a mermaid. I had never loved mermaids, but I tried it on and loved it. I was only wanting to spend $400 on a dress. It was $846, I talked to the ladies and they gave me 10% off bringing it to $816 after tax. But I was in love ( so I thought ) and I had a lot of people to talk me into it. It wasn’t until months later that I had the half down for them to order it, I came in and tried it on again to make sure I wanted to do it. I tried on a couple gowns , really liked another one that was closer to what I originally wanted and it was only $399. I couldn’t decide and even flipped a coin ( I know, stupid. ) It landed on the side of the more expensive gown and I found myself relieved, so I figured it was meant to be.
WEll, I have paid $600 on it , have $200 more to go and I am starting to have dress doubts. It started after I bought it, I loved it but I felt guilty about the money and I didn’t know what my family would think of it. They are traditional, and everything I liked before it was a simple ballgown or A-line. Before I tried on that dress I always imagined myself in an Aline modest and conservative gown with subtle , pretty details.
I waited until last week to send the pic of my dress to my parents. My step mom gave a ” it’s nice , but not what I expected, does it have straps? ” and my dad gave a curt ” it’s pretty”. And then the regret started to sink in.
Is mermaids just a fad, and am I going to look back and regret it in years to come?
Is it not conservative and modest enough, do I look like I am trying to show off my body on my wedding day?
Do I not have the money for it ? Do I not have the body for it? I feel like my hips are the widest part of the dress. I put a crinoline under it and felt a little better but from certain angles I feel like it just looks odd.
I am wondering if I should beg my bridal salon to let me trade it in for a cheaper , more traditional gown that was my second favorite, it was made out of cheaper materials but was my price range and still pretty, I loved it and I know my family would like it , I just didn’t have the amount of wow factor that the dress I bought did. And I am scared that they won’t let me b/c they had to order it in Ivory and my size (10 ), so it will just wait in the salon and they won’t be able to sell it for what they paid for it . And if they tell me No, I am scared it’ll make my dress regret worse.
My dress, sans crinoline
My dress + crinoline
bad angle , really makes me wonder