(Closed) The Economy and My Wedding

posted 9 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Helper bee

That is heartbreaking. I wish your family well in this difficult time.

How about cutting back on favors, invitations, the cake and other non-necessary items? Since you have the main parts booked, stick with those and try to avoid adding more to the wedding. Does a buffet cut back on cost? How about limiting meal choices? Appetizers only?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

All will be okay!!  For our wedding, my love and I have been talking about having a fairly late ceremony and reception (we both like nighttime and a full moon with an outdoor reception would be gorgeous) and I actually don’t like dinner at weddings anyway-that is the most awkward part-you’re sitting with people you don’t know and it’s just an odd void in the excitement.  Plus, a lot of people go to stay for dinner and then leave right after-I’m sorry, but if you are important enough to us to come to our wedding, I’m hoping that you’re there for more than just dinner!  We are going to forego the dinner and have a fruit/cheese/dessert wine/champagne/dessert bar…I’m thinking tons of our favorit candies and desserts in crystal dishes and so many that it would be reminiscent of Versaille during Marie Antoinette’s hay-day-something romantic and seemingly all sorts of tasty treats, but still much cheaper than dinner!  Plus, if you have it late like you were saying, at 7:30, then people can easily eat dinner beforehand and then it will be perfect for cocktails and dancing and enjoying your special day with people you love and who love you. :)))

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

*HUGS* My hopes and warmest thoughts are going out to your family right now, in this tough time.

I think that, if you’re going to be doing the wedding at 7:30, you could definitely skip serving a full dinner (it’ll probably be at least 8:00 by the time you all sit down to eat, maybe longer if you insert a couple minutes between your ceremony and reception).

I would suggest having a dessert reception, and putting that on the invites. On your wedding site, maybe explain the situation and gently remind guests to eat before coming to the wedding. You might also want to provide some finger-sandwiches/foods in the ceremony venue for about 30-15 minutes before the ceremony, to help guests who are still feeling a little peckish.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would also suggest cutting back on or eliminating favours if you can (this can knock hundreds from your budget), as well as perhaps getting your cake and the rest of your dessert buffet from a grocery store, or making it yourself. (Cookies and two-layer cakes are fairly simple, as are cupcakes.)

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

You could have a dessert & dancing reception! That way you could have it later at night and still have the band play, and you could probably cater it yourself if push came to shove. Our caterer does not include dessert in our package, so we’re getting all the cupcakes, pies, etc. for our dessert table ourselves.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree just do cocktails and dessert; dinner costs an arm and a leg; try to reduce whaever unnecessary things that you can; I looked at sales, bargained, DIY and negotiated and negotiated, minimized my guestlist; I must have saved at least $15,000

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Sorry to hear that !!!!! HUGS!!!! Check with your venue or caterers, perhaps a carving station or buffet option would be cheaper as our venue had. Considering that might save you some bucks and still give you the evening option!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Quick question, does your reception area have any food minimums you have to fulfill or is it just a space?

Post # 11
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Worker bee

  I say do a dessert and dancing reception! You could even get a lot of the desserts at your local grocery store. They have great stuff and good prices.

  Or you could try and find a less expensive caterer, or do less options on the dinner, or do light, simple finger foods, something like that. You could cut the budget on other things, that might help…

 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

So sorry!! My Fiance is losing his job in October, they atleast gave him a warning! We’re paying for our wedding mostly ourselves. My parents are helping a little and no help at all from his parents- our wedding date is the day after you, April 25th. To help with costs we’re have a Hors duerves reception, the reception will start at 2:30- we figured that everyone would have already eaten lunch and it’s too early for dinner. We were able to have quite a few options too from our venue- this way a lot of time wont be spent sitting eating a big dinner and there’s more tome to mingle and dance!! I know you were worried about people having a good time. Hope this helps!! Us April brides have to help each other out

Post # 13
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Newbee

Absolutely do desert and drinks…you can do a whole desert bar buffet style in addition to your cake which will really cut down on costs!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Im so sorry to hear about your dad, best wishes to him and your family.  I agree that people have the mis-notion that cocktail receptions are cheaper than full dinners.  For the most part they are actually more because its is more food to plan on.  I think a dessert reception would be very nice, you could have lots of mini desserts, cupcakes, various cakes, a candy bar, etc.  I hope the people coming to your wedding will have fun no matter what food you serve (but be sure to put dessert reception on your invitation so people dont come expecting dinner)  If dessert is not enough, how about a couple hors d’ oeuvres in the beginning and dessert later?

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m so sorry for your news.  This must be extremely stressful on all fronts.  Definitely do dessert and drinks.  Maybe you could have a theme to your drinks so that you could have a couple of signature cocktails to cut down on costs?  If your looking to provide a meal, perhaps offering a pasta station buffet style would be doable? 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I’m with the rest — dessert and drinks are a great idea and your guests won’t have to "save room" for the REALLY yummy stuff if you do that.

You could even make "sweet" the theme for your entire wedding and really play it up with some great DIY projects with candy, etc. 

I personally would LOVE to go to a wedding with only dessert.  YUM.  

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