(Closed) The End of my Engagement (an update)

posted 12 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Objectively speaking, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your fiance hanging out with the 8-year old every now and then if you guys had developed that sort of relationship with him, and there isn’t really anything you can do about it anyway. Please hold your head high and know that no matter what he may tell the neighbors, you did the right thing for you and don’t let him use little kids or anything else as a means to get back together with you!!

Sending you love- stay strong! You can do it! 🙂

Post # 4
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would advise you to be careful and make sure that his behaviour doesn’t turn stalker-esque, but in this case it may just be that he DOES genuinely care for the little boy. Don’t paint him all-bad just because you had a messy break-up (painful as I know it was for you, and I am very sorry that he was as immature as he was).

I’m glad that you’re doing well and moving on. =) And you’re absolutely right — you’ll find the "right guy" eventually. 

Post # 5
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Not only will you find the right guy but my suspicion is with your newfound free time from the wedding and fiance you’ll find other great things too – like new friendships.  I lived with a guy for 4 yrs – we weren’t engaged but always assumed we would be someday when he was done with school and had the money to propose. When I broke up with him – hardest thing I did ever –  I took a chance on Craigslist and moved in with an unknown girl who is now not only my best friend but the person I consider to be my sister 🙂

Post # 6
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Thanks for updating us on everything.  In just one week’s time you’ve gained so much clarity and insight into this situation and that speaks volumes about your strength and character.  Keep on keepin’ on and enjoy the new space and possibiliy in your life. 

Post # 7
374 posts
Helper bee

I agree w/mambiki.

It wasn’t meant to be .  I am concerned for your safety.  Get a new cell #.  Move if you can.  If it’s an apartment, how attached can you really be to it?  Don’t let him push the ‘pray card’ and holier than thou attitude.

Don’t call him every again!  Some men like the drama around break up, make up.  They love the chase.  You were baited and you took the bate.

Respect yourself and move on.  If  the kid comes to talk to you, say : I’ve got to run!

So, what’s happening?  No word for 2 months.  Fill us in.



Post # 8
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

It sounds like you’re really looking on the bright side and taking care of yourself. You will totally get through this. ((hugs))

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