- 12 years ago
- Wedding: October 2007
1. Acknowledge that you’re being defensive of your ex-fiance. Yes, he was honest and broke off the engagement. However, it sounds like he could have broached this subject months ago, no?
2. Cupcake is right, ex-f cannot approprirately care for pup on the road = so puppy comes with you!
3. Sit down with ex-f and discuss future living arrangements, how you plan to tell your family/friends, cancel vendors, etc. Make an appointment to dicuss follow-up issues (i.e., if any deposits are refundable, who gets that cash?)
4. Do not have breakup sex. Too painful as a previous poster stated.
5. This may sound silly, but try to remember some negative stuff about him/your relationship. During my divorce I had the hardest time thinking of negative stuff – therefore exH somewhat stayed on a pedastel in my little mind.
6. Call Mom. Your mother will embrace her child with open arms and heart. Tell her you and ex-f have already began discussing next steps. Tell her you may want to come home to live for 6-9 months (with pup) to get your life back in order, being in a comforting, warm environment may be just what you need to help you get your emotions and life back on track.
7. Yes, this will be hard, very hard. I’ve been through a divorce where we had separated three times! Finally we were mature enough to realize, no matter how much we thought we loved each other, that we simply weren’t the right ppl for each other. And guess what? My parents weren’t completely supportive of the marriage from day one – someone our parents (usually) just know. They’re kinda magic like that! They however did not judge, they told me how much they loved me, etc…
Now I’m newly-married to a wonderful, mature and infinitely kind man who makes my every day. I truly believe there is more than one person out there for each of us. I, as you will be when the time is right, was lucky to find this next person.
Last but not least, I’m sorry you are going through this. It is an extremely difficult time – my heart goes out to you! Good luck talking to your mother and remember tomorrow is another day.