Post # 1
Wow. I feel an aweful lot like a truck just ran me over, hollowed me out, and left me for dead. My Fiance just called off the wedding. I’ve been crying for the last hour. Every time I think I have it under control, I break into sobs again. He says he loves me, wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but he does not want to marry me. Not right now and not in the foreseeable future. We have been engaged for almost a full year. We are 7 months out from the wedding with everything booked, deposits having been paid, and Save the Dates having been sent far and wide.
I said to him,”We’ve been engaged for a Year! It didn’t occur to you before now?!” and his responce was that he’d not really thought about any of it until now! WTF?! After he said his piece, I kicked him out for the weekend. I’m so deeply hurt that I wanted him gone both before I said anything I’d regret and before I broke down crying all the way. I didn’t know what else to say to him. I did thank him for being honest with me, told him I still loved him, and then politly asked him to get the heck out.
I should have seen this coming since this was already the worst January ever. So far this month I have had my car permenatly breakdown, found out my apartment possibly has black mold and we’d need to move, 3 of my uncles died (all in the last two weeks!), my pet bunny has been sick, and, well, now this. 2010 is not being kind to me thus far.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Wow. I don’t even know what to say other than I AM SO SORRY! That must be awful. We’re here for you!!!
Post # 4
oh, honey…im soooo sorry! that made me cry! i know this seems like the worst thing ever, and it sucks that it took so long for him to come to this realization, but at least take comfort in the fact that at least he said this now…not after the wedding!! you are better off to know this now. im sure it was really hard for him to tell you this, i just wish he thouht of it before he proposed!!!! i can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through. why exactly does he not want to get married, if he wants to be with you forever still? what does he have against marriage? my heart goes out to you…
Post # 5
I am so sorry this has happened to you. I wish I had something amazingly insightful and meaningful to say, but right now it seems like that nothing would matter. (((HUGS)))
Post # 6
oh my gosh i’m so sorry to hear you are going through this. ((((((HUGS)))))). i also can’t express how much i wish i could say the perfect thing to give you some comfort, but please know that we care for you and are hear to listen when u need to get your feelings out.
Do you think he was in the “heat of the moment” and said that out of anger/confusion?? He doesn’t want to get married but wants to stay together?
(I apologize if you don’t want to talk anymore details if it upsets you too much..just thought i’d ask because i feel for you)
Post # 7
Oh rabbit, I am SO sorry this happened to you. I wish I had the perfect thing to say, but know that my heart is going out to you.
Post # 8
Ouch. OH honey, my heart just ACHES for you, so, so much. I cannot even imagine what you’re going through and this has for sure been a rough, rough january for you. Love you, here for you, and you know you can count on the hive to listen.
Post # 9
(hugs) I know this is hard, but hopefully by him saying he still wants to spend the rest of his life with you, and he still loves you gives you comfort. Maybe it is something about the wedding specifically. I really hope things work out for you.
Post # 10
Im so sorry, I have no words for you other than my thoughts and prayers are with you through this difficult time. I hope you realize how much love is here for you here at the Hive and I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Men can be so stupid sometimes.
Post # 11
Rabbit, I am so so sorry. I don’t know what to say other than that. Feel free to vent here as much as you like, we’ll always listen. I hope things get better.
Post # 12
I am so sorry!! 🙁 I don’t know if there’s anything I can say. We’re here for you and I hope that things work out for the best!
Post # 13
OMG I am soooo sorry you are having such a horrible year! And I don’t know what to say other than you are the only one that knows what is best for you!
I wish you all the best and my thoughts are with you!
And we are here for you when you need us!
Post # 15
I am so sorry. I hope that you can figure out what to do with your relationship that is best for you.
Post # 16
I’m sorry to hear this. I know things seem hard today but remember that there is a reason life takes these turns and it will all be worth the heartache in the long run.
You know we are all here for you!