Post # 1
Hello everyone! I have been a lurker on these boards for so long, but I decided to officialy post as I feel as though my engagement future is ‘near’ and would love others to post from their experiences in this stage or those who are in it! We have been together for four years, own our home, and have talked about marriage for awhile, but we had a really big conversation to talk about what we both had in mind. My boyfriend indicated that he would really like to propose this year, the new year, really between the end of the summer/early fall. I was surprised when he told me that, but I think that the new year had him refelctive and he wanted to give me an idea. Although there is another part of me who wonders if hes trying to ‘throw me off’ 😉 Anyway, we have talked about rings and looked at them together, so I had assumed it was coming sometime soon–I was also thinking it would have been our anniversary–this March, but I’m excited either way!!
Those of you who have been there, how do you stand the wait?! I’m thrilled and am trying SO hard not to do more than pin like crazy on Pinterest. With that said, my BF and I are talking about possibly getting married at the court house after we get engaged (secretly). We would still do the wedding, but may have that moment more privaetly and I would officially change my name on the day of our wedding with family and that would be our anniversary. I’ve heard so many ladies in similar boats and have enjoyed reading their posts, figured I’d make one of my own! Tell me everyhing 🙂
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
I have one of the oddest and fastest stories ever but I said a couple days. My fiance proposed to me a month into our relationship and I said yes. We had mentioned how we both felt to have found the one but that was unexpected and perfect for me. We’ve been together for over a year and will start planning our wedding soon. 🙂
Post # 3
I thought I hit reply, but I must not have! Thank you for sharing, that sounds so special and it sounds like you have been able to enjoy your engagement too! When are you planning the wedding for?
Post # 4
Personally I never felt like I was waiting, one day DH said to me “I am going to propose to you this time next year”. And one year later he proposed! But I didn’t feel like I was really waiting during that time either, I was busy living my life and trusted him to stick to his word. Also we were 23 when he proposed so I didn’t feel any sort of rush! But I guess in response to your poll, I technically “waited” a year 😉
I would take your SO at his word and don’t get your hopes up before Fall!
Post # 5
Love that advice, sapphire27! Even when my BF and I spoke about it recently he said something very similar to what you said, “I just want to focus on right now and when the wedding comes, enjoy that” it really made me sit back and consider the ways we balance each other out. He slows down the planner in me, and I need that sometimes! I have honestly been diving into my hobbies to stop focusing too much on the “wait” I do 100% believe him with its timeframe and I really like your advice of not expecting it sooner, I think that is unfair to him and myself. It will happen whenever it will in that timeframe. 🙂
Post # 6
So I’m a planner as well, and we had the timeline talk and literally a week later were shopping for rings. I had to wait for the ring to be completed, so it was about 6weeks of waiting! There were multiple times that I was like “maybe this is it!” and it wasn’t! I had fun with it, concentrated on keeping my nails done (although the one time I let them grow out a bit, he did it, of course!) and concentrated on just taking care of myself. I worked out a lot, had fun with friends, ate really well and just sort of enjoyed the waiting period!
I also am a super planner, so I pinned like crazy, just to give myself an idea of what I liked. I would also periodically go through and delete pins that I didn’t like anymore to sort of narrow down my vision. The other thing I did before we got engaged was I set up a budget, started saving a lot more money so we could pay for this thing. I also started calling different venues that were big enough to hold us to get some quotes and available dates so I had some starting points when we first started looking (we knew we would have over 300 people, I also put together my half of the guest list, guessed on his friends/family, so I had an idea. That is when I knew it would be 300-400 people!).
I agree with PP that you should believe him when he says next fall. Pick a date in your mind that is well past that, and convince yourself he will propose then. Pick next Christmas, and just tell yourself that is when he will propose. It will stop you from going crazy leading up to it and it will make it so it is still a surprise for you when it actually happens!