(Closed) The Envelope: Wedding Gift Calculator/How much to give — Thoughts??

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What do you think of this?
    It's spot on. : (12 votes)
    11 %
    It's off - it recommends giving more than I'm comfortable with. : (47 votes)
    41 %
    It's off - it recommends giving less than I'd give. : (9 votes)
    8 %
    It's tacky! : (12 votes)
    11 %
    It's useful! : (8 votes)
    7 %
    It's silly. : (26 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    11239 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    LMAO it wants us to give FI’s cousin $250 for his wedding, that we have to drive 4 hours to the middle of nowhere and get a hotel for. Maybe I’m cheap, but I can’t personally imagine giving anyone $250 as a gift–sorry, we’re broke. I did another one for the wedding we attended last October and it said $165. Why less for a local wedding? 

    I did it from my MOH’s perspective, and I highly doubt that she’ll gift us almost $300.

    Post # 4
    3574 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It’s actually pretty close for me.  It has us giving $190 to a wedding we are traveling to WA for (planning to give $200) and has us giving $275 for a more local wedding this summer (were planning to give $300).

    Post # 5
    755 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    wow.  I just tried it for an upcoming wedding.  Just 5 minutes before I was having a financial anxiety attack because I need to spend $250 on a course, and I feel like I can’t afford it on top of everything else going on.  Their suggestion for a gift: $250.  Let the anxiety begin in 3..2…

    Post # 6
    3082 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    It has me giving less than I normally would lol 

    Post # 7
    2963 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Well it certainly made me giggle. It suggested $235. My usual gift is $50.

    Post # 8
    1663 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Wow, it suggested $305 for FI’s cousin’s wedding.  We’re already flying there and renting a car in addition to a hotel room.  Definitely more than we’re planning to give.

    Post # 9
    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I tried it for my sister’s wedding. I’m her MOH and it seems too low actually. We are pretty close and it is a DW in New Orleans, but our family is from there. When I tried it for a wedding we went to recently it seemnor closer but still not accurate. 

    I don’t think there can be an exact formula or calculator. Everybody’s family/friend dynamic is different and there are so many people in different places in their lives. generally give $200-$300 depending on who it is, if we have to travel, pay for a hotel, etc

    Post # 10
    1926 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Wow, it’s telling us to give a $260 gift on a $25000-$35000 household income plus 115 miles of travel? Yeah effing right. 


    Post # 11
    3288 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Hmm, FI and I have been wondering if we’re giving the “right” amount for our (puny) incomes, and it seemed to agree with what we’re giving, which was kind of a relief.

    Though I did mess one up (said we weren’t attending, but would be traveling 500+ miles–to NOT attend, apparently) and it said we should give them -5 dollars! Hopefully those friends will send us a check along with the invitation! 🙂

    Post # 12
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’ve looked at it before and found the results to be pretty ridiculous sometimes and pretty close to what I’d do other times.

    Post # 13
    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No, I just graduated and don’t have a job yet, but am still working at a college job. I put that I make the lowest amount and would be bringing my FI and it wants us to give like 200. In my area that is a lot to give.

    Post # 14
    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think it’s annoying, but I wouldn’t use it. It suggests giving my close friend $165 and my husband and I just don’t have that. We can spring maybe $30 for something off her registry. As she was a bridesmaid in my wedding and had to fly down and is also just as broke as us, I’m almost 100% sure she’ll understand. Especially since she’s getting married just a week after we move so we’re making the moving trek just to turn around and get on a plane to fly back for her wedding. 

    Post # 15
    154 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Generally, I thought the calculator was a good guideline. However, I thought the figures were high if you consider travel and other expenses to get there (like @Almost Mrs.P mentioned about car rental, etc.)

    So, I’m not sure if this is a cultural thing (I’m Italian), but I even thought these calculated figures (and those of some PPs) are kind of low! SO and I aren’t rich, but it’s very insulting in my family to not give a good “busta” as we call it. Even as a 19 year old university student paying my own tuition, I gave $250 to my mom’s cousin on his wedding day, and I attended single!




    Post # 16
    2213 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @vorpalette: Are we going to the same wedding?  😛

    I think the calculator is a little high for my neck of the woods…FI and I are attending my step cousin’s wedding, which will be in a county nature preserve, driving over 400 miles round trip to attend, plus lodging (over Labor Day weekend – not so cheap!), and it thinks we should spend $225…

    We’ll probably gift somewhere in the $50-$100 range.

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