The etiquette of inviting co-workers

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I’d say invite the first two trainers that you’ve hung out with outisde of work, as well as April and Andy. If you don’t feel close with someone, they likely feel the same about you and probably don’t expect to be invited. The boss and grandboss is a finer line, and I don’t know if you have to invite them since you don’t socialize with them outside of work. That one would be up in the air for me.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

If the ones you are closest with are still only on the “we’ve hung out a few times outside work” level, do you really need to invite them at all?

Obviously, this is a very personal decision and I don’t know how much these people really mean to you, but for myself personally, I will not be inviting any coworkers – not even my favourite ones who I do actually hang out with once in a while. 

I think the important question to ask is this: if you no longer work together three years from now, do you think you’d still hang out? If the answer is no, I wouldn’t bother having them at the wedding because you’re not really *friends*.. just friendly colleagues. 

As for inviting in circles – I get that theory to some extent, but I also don’t think it needs to be applied as a hard and fast rule.  Just because you invite one cousin that you are actually super close with doesn’t mean you have to invite your other cousin that you haven’t seen since you were 15. With coworkers, just because you invite one or two who you have an outside-of-work relationship with, doesn’t mean you need to invite your entire workplace or everyone else who works in the same team or level as they do.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

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radnurse :  Definitely not a weird reason to invite! But you mentioned being worried it would be seen as brownnosing? At my company it wouldn’t be seen as brownnosing, and I know coworkers who have both invited their boss and not invited their boss, to their weddings.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I say you should invite the people you want to invite — just keep it professional by not discussing the wedding/wedding-related things in the office and redirecting any of those people if they happen to bring things up. It doesn’t sound like the people you don’t plan to invite would be expecting an invitation anyway.

And nice use of the Parks&Rec references 🙂

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