- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
My Fiance and I put together a rough guest list a few months ago, figuring mostly family and our closest friends, at about 85 people. As time has gone on, he keeps bringing up these other people he feels he should invite. He has been a bestman, groomsman, or usher in over 15 different weddings. Now, even though he hasn’t seen some of these guys in years, he thinks he should invite them (and their spouses) to the wedding. That puts us a little over 100 now, but I was ok with that.
Last week, we were out shopping and we came across the parents of one of his best friends, growing up. These people meant a lot to him, and when he told them we were getting married, he verbally invited them. I was ok with this too. So, today we got a call from my Future Mother-In-Law, and apparently, it has now made the rounds in their little town, that we are getting married, and now she and my Future Father-In-Law are getting bombarded with people hinting that they would like to come to the wedding. My FIs parents are rather prominent in their town, so they know A LOT of people. So, now that this one couple has been invited, word is out, and it seems that there are going to be hurt feelings among the town elite if they don’t get an invitation, too. His mom came out and said “If we invite one, we have to invite everyone.” Now, my Fiance has not lived in his hometown, since he got out of college, which is 15 years ago. Granted, he knows all of them, but hasn’t had much interraction with them in a long time. I am not thrilled with the idea of doubling our guest list. His parents offered to help more with the catering if we needed it, but said that it was up to us, who we should invite. I was ok with 100 people. If we go ahead and invite all these other people, who seem to think they should be invited, that tacks on about 70 or 80 more people. My Fiance told his mom we would talk about it and get back to her. His parents are taking us out to brunch tomorrow after church, so I know we are going to have a pow wow about it then. Should I put my foot down and say NO to all these extra people, and just let them deal with the social ramifications on their own, or should I just ok inviting their whole community to our wedding?