Post # 1
Originally we had planned no kids, I was fine with it, exception: my Maid/Matron of Honor 18 month old. reason: we aren’t paying for a plate for him. Our budget is tight, Im a student, Fiance is looking for work…One of my other good HS friends has 2 kids, originally she said it was going to be just her-traveling from CO. Great, I don’t have to worry about kids, those are my only 2 friends that have any. fast forward…my friend who orginally was coming alone..emails me: Hey we decided to make it a FAMILY ROAD TRIP! (haven’t seen her or kids in like 4+ years) OMG, we already decided to make it NO KIDS?! I don’t want to exclude her kids, but then we can’t exclude anybody elses kids if we invite hers…and it turns out he has more cousins with kids, etc…it would add like 10+ dinners ugh Im torn and don’t know what to do…she’s a good friend and i dont’ want to hurt her feelings ya know ugh! I need bee input! what should we do?
Post # 3
@Krispy1327: Simple–tell everyone “no kids” and that you just can’t afford it.
Post # 4
If you can’t afford it, tell people no. You can suggest GOOD and RELIABLE babysitters if you know any (but don’t do this if you don’t actually know that they are good).
Have you asked your venue if they do children’s plates? Mine offers $5 children’s plate with chicken fingers…if they can do something that you can afford and IF you don’t mind having kids there, that might be an option. If it’s not, don’t sweat it…but be careful about making too many exceptions.
Post # 5
You can have whatever rule you want, so long as there are clear dividing lines. For example, you could say no kids under 12. Or no kids except ones who are still breast-feeding. Or out of town kids only. Or immediate family only. However, if you say that one cousin’s kids are invited and another’s are not, you are asking for trouble.
Also, you do have to be realistic that in some instances, not inviting the kids will mean that the parents can’t come. A breastfeeding mother who lives out of town can’t really leave her kid at home for several days, and may not be comfortable finding a babysitter in a strange town. Other out-of-town guests may find it prohibitively expensive to get a 24-hour-a-day babysitter on top of flight, hotel, etc. It’s typically not as big a deal for local guests, although even they may find that the babysitter is sick at the last moment.
Post # 6
I think you should be honest with everyone and say noo kids. If you could recommend a sitter, that would be cool, although I don’t know too many parents that would leave their little ones with an absolute stranger :/.