(Closed) The Exes…. WHY?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9688 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mrs.em2hurley:  Because bad men are like a fungus or a rash.  They keep coming back.  Just ignore him.  This happens to every woman I’ve ever known, including myself.  It’s very common.

Post # 4
4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ignore it, tell them to back the F off,  and block contact with them. Simple.

Post # 5
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have had exs contact me since my husband and I have gotten together.

Whenever I get an email from them, I usually just click them to the trash bin. I just dont find it appropriate or respectful to even engage in convos with them regarding relationships. 

There is a reason that these people are “exes”.

So if I were you, I would look back on the reasons you decided to marry your Fiance. Clearly you felt that it was a good choice, so just remember that. 


Post # 6
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think it can definitely be flattering to get that type of email. But junk it. Don’t respond. I agree – bad men are like rashes. You don’t need him in your life – you have a great Fiance who you will have a wonderful life with. Don’t let the ex cloud your feelings.

Post # 7
3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@tranquility:  I agree.


Don’t engage, it’s disrespectful to your relationship.  Exes are the WORST!

Post # 8
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I hate guys who want what they can’t have! Ignore him, you seem to already have answered your own question as Ex has nothing to offer!

Post # 9
2893 posts
Sugar bee

Exes are exes for a reason. Unfortunately, time has a way of slowly making you forget the crappy parts about your relationship with them that eventually ended everything. Ignore it. He’ll get the hint.

Post # 10
2742 posts
Sugar bee

Ugh, now I feel weird. Am I the only one ‘the dreaded ex’ didn’t want 🙁 Well, I don’t keep in touch with exes though so I’d take that as the reason 😉

Post # 12
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My best friend gets emails from her exes all the time, but she thinks it’s way too uncivil to tell them to back off. She also calls/texts/etc. guys that have shown interest in her despite telling them she won’t date them. She’s had this one ex email her while he’s engaged to someone else. They dated for a year back in high school. We’re now approaching our 10-year reunion and I just don’t get it why she hasn’t called him out on it.

A part of me believes that she gets an ego boost out of it. But then again she has had semi-commital relationships and I’d be honestly surprised if she found the one and be ready for him anytime soon. I suspect she’ll probably marry eventually but with this going on I doubt it’d be a strong marriage. Any self-respecting guy wouldn’t put up with her chatting with her exes or ex-potentials. But I figured we are young, she’s allowed a few years of playing the field. I just don’t agree with how she’s doing it, though.

I believe it’s just the yearning for the past in some way, from the doer and the receiver. For the ex, he is earnestly trying to rekindle what was lost and just can’t get over it. For my friend, I also she hasn’t gotten over it and that it’s too insulting for their current SOs and she always tries to hide it from them. I agree with PPs that trashing the emails or setting it to block is the best way to respect your Fiance and the relationship you have with them.

Post # 13
2144 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think this happens to almost everyone. I’ve had a few guys email me on facebook and send me text messages since I got engaged too.

Post # 14
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Sunfire: Because bad men are like a fungus or a rash.  They keep coming back.  Just ignore him.  This happens to every woman I’ve ever known, including myself.  It’s very common.

What she said.  It’s happened to me as well. 

Don’t answer his emails or messages.  Block him.  He didn’t want you then, so he shouldn’t get a second chance with you now.  That ship has sailed.  You have moved on.  Talking to him is not going to benefit you at all.  So leave the past in the past, focus on your Fiance and your wedding.

Post # 15
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Causes exes are like a bad case of herpes. Just when you think you get rid of them they flare up again. Some men make plays like the one he is making because, deep down he knows your not going to dump your fiance. Then he can say well I tried and you didnt want me. He is really safe from a relationship with you because your already in a relationship. He doesnt actually have to commit himself.

If you decide to let go of your fiance I can guarantee that he will dump you the moment you are single.

Post # 16
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

DOn’t do it… totally ignore the email

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